Will it stop hurting?

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Hey guys, my hubby and I have been married for almost 5 months. We waited until our wedding night to have sex. He could not enter all the way without causing me excruciating pain. It has gotten better, but it still hurts when he penetrates me fully. I miss not having to have restraint, and feel guilty that my husband has to be so conscious of causing me pain. Any advice on how to overcome this?

Accepted Answer

If he’s too big then you need a lot of lube and be relaxed. Lots of foreplay. It does get better but if hes too big then it may always hurt a bit. Been with my husband 2y+ and he still hurts me sometimes due to his size.

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Lube, lube, lube!!
If it doesn’t get better with that, take the time and money to see your gyno. This is your health and sex with your husband should be enjoyable.

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Lube and foreplay

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Sounds like you both are skipping over  foreplay. It’s okay if foreplay takes some time. Sex isn’t the main course. It’s all fun. Commit to enjoying sex and relax. I think women who wait for marriage to have sex get so hung up that sex is bad/dirty that when it comes down to it, they can’t relax and enjoy their husband. I know this to be true because it happened to me. Sex is so much fun and so wonderful especially with your husband who loves you. Get some lube, get some toys, get the stretching toys so you can enjoy sex. Ask your husband to take his time. Have him play with your breasts, that will help dilate your vagina, too.

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Try doggy or a side position where he's not able to fully penetrate you. My man is big so regular missionary position sex is uncomfortable for me. We will switch to fight or side and it's mush better.

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I had a septuagenarian hymen. Could only achieve partial penetration. SUPER PAINFUL

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Maybe try doing more foreplay? Or is it possible your hymen is still partially intact? You can also ask your gyno about this.

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It isn't a matter of wetness, he is just too big. I think he might be hitting my cervix or something...

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When my husband and i first started it was hell because he’s bigger, we just made foreplay longer and after a month it was fine, I’m use to him now and there’s no pain

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My hubby is a little long and it hurts sometimes too. I've found that it hurts more on certain days of my cycle than others. Some days my cervix is higher and it doesn't hurt at all.

Will it stop hurting?

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