Self-help relationship books

My husband and my relationship is hanging by a thread. We are going to read the 7 Principles book that I’ve seen mentioned here many times.

In addition, he’s going to read What Radical Husbands Do, and I’d like to read the wifely equivalent. The problem is, I know a lot of the self help wife books are based on traditional gender roles and religious beliefs. I am atheist, am the breadwinner by twice, and wear the metaphorical pants.

Anybody know a good marriage guide for the strong independent woman who don’t need no man (but actually wants to save her marriage)?

Thank you. ❤️

PS, the “don’t need no man” is a colloquialism. And also, we’d love to go to counseling but work schedules and children make it impossible.