CAUGHT! Update

Just some more details: unfortunately since they are his daughters from his previous marriage, there is nothing I can do. One is 19, so she could leave willingly, but the other is 17 and still in school, and the older one would never leave her sister alone, and I wouldn’t expect her to. My family and I will do our best to support them secretly, but there is only so much we can do as I’m sure he will move, change their phone numbers etc. I will do my best to stay in contact.

And don’t you worry, if it was just me and him, that bitch would have been flipped out of that bed so fast, and I would have tased his ass for even so much as screaming at me. At one point he said “I’m about to turn into a wrecking ball!” I said “Go ahead, fucking try me” But I refuse to get violent in front of the girls. At the end of the day, he is still their dad. They deserve so much better than this.

Oh, and I called both of his parents and told them what happened in great detail, long lost daughter story and all. They are both completely apologetic and don’t know how this could’ve happened. So I’m sure he’s going to have a REALLY fun Thanksgiving.

I don’t want his money, but I’m definitely going to drag him in the divorce, and whatever I get, I’m going to put directly into a college fund for the youngest, as I know he doesn’t have a penny saved for that.

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Less than 2 months ago my husband decided to tell me he no longer wanted kids. Out of the blue, as we had just paid $10k for a vasectomy reversal.

We’ve been going through it trying to sort that out, but he just keeps saying there’s too much pressure and he doesn’t want to talk about it. I’ve been understandably very upset, crying all the time.

He texted two weeks ago something weird and cryptic about staying at the beach after surfing. I knew something was up, so I drove down there, and lo and behold he was there with another woman. I of course lost it and started screaming at her to get the fuck out of my husband’s car. He pushed me out of the way to get into his car, locked it, and refused to get out of the car and talk to me, she wouldn’t look at me, the more I asked him what his problem was, the more he screamed at me “you’re my problem!” Then he kept telling me that I looked crazy and everyone was staring at ME.

Got home, he said he didn’t want to talk about it, but that of course he wasn’t cheating and he can’t believe I don’t give him the benefit of the doubt. Then came up with a lie about how it’s a girl claiming to be his daughter from before.

Told stories to me for weeks, unprompted, about how he was so nervous he was going to owe back child support, how guilty he felt for not knowing etc. Then he lied about needing to go to a work dinner, and I saw a text from her saying “see you soon” and callled him out on it. He said it was because she was scared of me now, and that she asked for me not to be involved. I said fine, go ahead, if you need to go to this dinner so badly, go.

That was a week ago. He came back and told a whole sob story about how she cried to him about why he never came to find her etc.

Cut to this week, he had been ignoring me and just completely cutting me out, so I went to stay at a hotel. Yesterday he texted saying he wanted a divorce, and that I just haven’t been listening, he’s been telling me he wants a divorce. This Friday night, at 2:45am, he texted me “please don’t come home, I am here, and my possibly daughter will be here, please don’t fuck this up for me”

So I waited, and drove back to my house. Got there at 8am, opened the door to our bedroom, and found them both fast asleep, completely naked in our bed.

Oh, and did I mention that his daughters from his previous marriage, who I’ve been raising with him for the past 7 years, were sleeping in the next room?

I took photos, so he couldn’t claim it didn’t happen. Then brought my brother in who had been waiting outside. Woke my husband up, he started screaming about how I needed to leave. I said it’s my apartment, I pay half of the rent, I don’t need to go anywhere. He was covering his poor little junk with a blanket, screaming about calling the cops on me. I said what the hell are you going to tell them? That your wife is standing in her apartment that she pays rent in?

He screamed that I was crazy, and looney, and that he’s been telling me for 6 months that he doesn’t want to be with me, but that I just don’t listen. I have literally months of texts from him talking about how much he loves me, appreciates me etc. I yelled “2 months ago, you bought me a best wife ever t shirt just because”. He said yeah right, I didn’t do that, clearly trying to save face in front of this bitch because I’m sure he told her an entirely different story if she was willing to come into our house and sleep in our bed with him.

I woke up the girls, told them everything. I said look, your dad is going to try and pretend that I am crazy. But I want you to know that woman in there was naked in my bed. I love both of you, and that’s not going to change. You can call me or text me anytime.

He took off, forced the girls to go with him, and with this new bitch in the car.

My parents came and helped me pack as much as possible. The coward almost came back home, but as soon as he saw my parents car out front I saw him flip a u-turn and drive off.

My whole life is turned upside down. But I am so glad I know for sure, and have proof.

Moral of the story, if you think they are lying, they are!

I won’t post the photos of them in bed, as I’m sure it will become a legal issue when I file for divorce.

This is what he texted me finally last night.