How the bleep do I deal with this!

How the fuck (pardon my french) do I deal with a dirty husband?? I clean after our baby and still have to clean after my husband! I keep telling him but he just isn’t listening!!! How can you just dump your socks and dirty clothes on the floor right next to the LAUNDRY BASKET!!!! how can you finish eating and dump the plates in the sink without washing up! How can you sprinkle water everywhere in the bathroom and not clean up!!! How can you wear the same boxer over and over again and not change until I tell you to! How can you always leave your wardrobe messy for weeks waiting for me to sort it out! Etc! You guys can say “oh get a grip and just clean up after him, after all you are a stay at home mom and the wife”. But no it shouldn’t be like this! 3 years later and nothing has changed! This causes arguments every time!