Help 😞

Hi all,

I just want to know what’s going on with me! This may be a little long so forgive me. I’m a bit confused and anxious. Also a little TMI.

I was supposedly ovulating on the 19th October. We had sex that night but my partner didn’t ejaculate inside me. He pulled out, which is whatever because we haven’t been actively trying yet. We sort of have a “if it happens, it happens” thing going. We’ve talked about starting to try though in a while if our casual approach doesn’t work 😅

We then went on holiday to Bali on the 21st and had a lot of sex - every two days. We always had actual sex but he didn’t always ejaculate inside. Again, whatever. He did twice though, on the 26th and 29th.

We came back home on the 2nd November. Overnight flight, not too stressful to Australia, only 6 hours.

I was expecting AF on the 3rd. Didn’t come. My shackles rose a little but I didn’t get carried away because I was 2 days late at the start of October. Before that, I’ve been very regular. We both caught the flu from someone on the plane though, and we were very sick for 2 days. I was better by the 5th. Still no AF.

It’s now the 9th. A week late. No AF. Two hard BFN’s, admittedly done late at night - one at 11pm and one the next day at 1.30am. Supposedly 21 DPO if I actually did ovulate on the 19th. But I’m thinking I didn’t; it may have been delayed. I had very very light pink CM when I wiped in the afternoon on the 7th, two days ago. It only lasted 3 hours. I’ve had a headache that comes and goes every day, a bit of cramping, feeling a tad funny but nothing else. Boobs aren’t sore, back is okay. Appetite normal-ish. Not nauseous. Kinda irritable, not sleeping at all = making me more irritable!

The only thing I can think of is that it’s still maybe too early for a BFP, but this seems a bit too long? I’m also confused by the pink CM - the internet says implantation bleeding apparently comes before a missed period, not after. I’m also thinking I may have ovulated late and it’s been a shorter timeframe than I think, but all I’m going off is period tracker apps, not any O tests, temperature or CM because I didn’t do any of that at the time. I was in Bali so being hotter than normal is expected! 😂

I know this is long, sorry. I’m just getting wound up, over-thinking, over-Googling (!) and need some opinions and real life experiences on what might be happening and what I should do next!

Thanks lovely ladies 😊