I just need to vent

I feel very lonely and unhappy with my husband. He is constantly telling me how easy it is for me to be at home with the baby, tells me all I do is play on my phone and watch tv which isn’t true and gets mad when I don’t get stuff around the house done or a good dinner made.

The other day I told him I wanted to have a shower and he told me I had one the other day and today he told me to hurry up because he wanted to watch hockey and our son was fussy. He never comes home and takes our son or wants to care for him and when I give him the baby he plays on his phone and dosent pay attention to him. Yesterday when I went to have a shower he put the baby in the bouncy chair and let him cry the whole time I was in the shower (he was playing on his phone) and when I called him on it he got mad and didn’t talk to me all night.

I tried to talk to him about how I felt tonight and he turned it around on me and kept saying that all I care about is the baby and our niece who we care for and not him because we have only had sex once since our son was born (I had a very bad delivery). I tried to explain it isn’t that I don’t care for him but that I am tired as I am still up 4 times a night with our son and then all day with no help and sex was very painful. I said if he helped maybe it would be different and he went off about how he works at a job he hates and I don’t understand what he is going through and said I am just trying to make him look bad.

I honestly know what to do. All I want to do is cry right now as I’m so frustrated. My sister told me to leave him with our son for a day so he can see how hard it is but I honestly don’t feel comfortable leaving him alone with the baby for too long.