I'll try to keep this as short as possible...

So I left/divorced my ex (father of my two oldest boys) about 8 years ago. Throughout those years he has had little involvement in their lives and most of those years has been a deadbeat. Then almost a year ago he just up and decided to come back into their lives, come to find out it is because he was having a baby with his girlfriend and now wanted to be this big happy family.

Well, I didn't stand in the way, although I almost brought it back to court when he and his girlfriend started talking shit about me to my kids. She has also financially supported my ex so he wouldn't work and pay child support, so I don't especially like her. Anyway, I told my ex if he didn't stop slandering me to the kids I'd take him back to court for it and as far as in aware, it stopped and we started being civil and working on co-worker parenting.

So he's been paying his child support and we've been civil since about August (his girlfriend and I both had babies in July).

Here's my rant:

Last night was our kids school conferences and the first ones he's ever been to (our oldest is in 10th grade and the other is in 6th) he decides without discussing it or giving me a heads up, that his girlfriend is coming! I found this out when they stopped by my house before hand so they could follow us to the school. My oldest son texted his dad on the way and let him know that I didn't want her coming into the room during conferences (I didn't tell him to do this, he just did).

We get to the first teacher and she still was going to try to come in! I simply said, "I don't think she needs to come in with us". My ex responded, "you don't have to be rude about it". I told him it wasn't rude and left it at that, not wanting to make a scene at the school.

I will say, she didn't create any more problems with trying to go in, she stayed in the hallway and talked to which ever child wasn't participating in the conference at the time. I was five until we had to wait for some of the teachers until the other parents before us finished and she decided she was going to sit and grill my oldest about why his grades aren't good. I'm thinking, ah, he doesn't need to be grilled by 3 adults, his dad and I can handle it. And this is what conferences are for, so the teacher can discuss with his dad and I what he needs to do to importer his grades, ECT.

Now for anyone who is going to assume that I'm feeling this way because I'm jealous or whatever, that is not at all the case. He was abusive and I'm the one that left him and filed for divorce and I'm happier than ever with my SO. I just have an issue with her because of the above mentioned reasons and it irritates me when the "step parent" crosses boundaries and they didn't even bother to ask if I was cool with her going, which in my opinion is rude and disrespectful. I have a legal obligation to co-parent with just ex, not her.