Just a reminder that work isn’t everything

Hey y’all so just wanted to remind y’all that work isn’t everything in life so don’t get caught up in it like I did earlier this year...I’ve always wanted to get into law enforcement so I started to apply to different counties, took exams, got hopeless and decided to go the jailer route. Applied and took more exams, applied to a jail that I never thought I’d ever get into or would really want to but once they offered me the job a friend at the time (an ex) told me regardless I needed to take it just to put my foot in the door so I did. Never in my life have I been so happy I listened to an ex! Lol on the first day there was this trustee who was so handsome but I just saw him as eye candy since I was actually dating someone (although it hadn’t gone too far and after the 15 texts/calls I got after the first 8 hr shift he got the boot. Remember what I said earlier. Don’t allow work to be your everything) so the second day the trustee asks me if I was married (I wore my 22 kill ring on my left ring finger since from powerlifting it was too small from the swelling to go on my trigger finger in honor of the 22 Veterans who commit suicide daily (that number is now 20 btw!!!)) and he also puts in there that he’s gonna look me up once he gets out of jail. My partner who was training me walks me out to get a cigarette as I walk to my car and says “you know he likes you and I know you like him back and don’t tell me any bs that you don’t just be careful and if you do do something with him make sure you two get burn phones since the jail will keep track of your calls.” I tell her she’s crazy bc I had a bf (which was a lie bc I broke up with him the night before). On the third day, at this point all the corrections officers and trustees know he’s crushing on me and let’s be honest, who’s good at hiding their true feelings in their facial expressions? Definitely not me apparently... and especially when he’s doing laundry shirtless...he keeps following me around and wants to help me the whole week however he can and I let him. By the end of the day he asks me if I even want him to look me up once he gets out and I tell him I needed to plea the fifth amendment, winked at him, smiled, and turned around. He jumps up and smacks his hands together in excitement. About an hour later he hand delivers my lunch to me and stays there as I eat it so we could talk and I used the mustard and ketchup to write “xox” on the plate. Fourth day comes and he’s doing something in the woman’s laundry room and so I tell my partner I felt like he needed to be watched so I was gonna take care of him (all other officers would leave him alone bc they knew he wouldn’t do anything which is totally against protocol btw) and we talked like really talked. Then some of the other officers came and said he had to go downstairs to the kitchen and he asked when he could see me again bc Everyone thought I’d be assigned a 12 hr shift soon. One of the officers said “you need to stop you don’t even know if she likes you!” So He asks me if I did and I said “yeah maybe but since you’re this age, still married with this amount of kids named blank and have a Ford not really bc I’m not a home wrecker nor do I drive fords even if it’s a 6-speed like yours.” He corrects me that he’s been divorced for two years but he’s eventually gonna get me around to liking fords. Officers laugh and take him down to do work. That night I couldn’t sleep at all. I was completely 110% infatuated with this man. On the fifth day, my roommate at the time could notice something was up bc I sang everywhere....I even sang love songs to work! I walk in and go to the kitchen to make my order for breakfast. Oh and I forgot to mention he told all the other trustees he’s only allowed to talk to me so obviously he took my order! Lol at the end of it (3 sausages patties) I say, “#### right?” Which was the numbers to his street address!!!! And he smiles and says, “yep that’s right #### how did you know?” And I replied, “let’s just say I’ve done my research on you trustee” and as I walk away I yell and bring that up to me when it’s still hot. He brings it up and talks to me as my partner and I work. Later that day I was fired for fraternization and he was transferred to another facility. I thought my world was over bc I lost my dream job and I worried about him...how was I going to see him, did he feel the same about me or was he just passing time...but 7 months later we’re still going strong and still play cat and mouse with each other just in our camper we own on the land we bought together that’s river side along with my dog, and our ford and Chevy trucks lol moral of the story: don’t judge people who are incarcerated, don’t let work take over your life, and God has a plan so don’t fret when you decide to try to take over that plan! Had I not gotten raped by a marine before I left for boot camp, not gotten separated bc of the ptsd, not had such a hard time getting into any law enforcement agency bc of the separation (my state required a wavier) or had I not listened to my ex I would had never met the love of my life who by the looks of his google search a few weeks ago looks like ima have a new last name soon! His search, “how to ask your girlfriends father to marry her”!!!! (He was asleep and his phone was open...I had to! Normally I wouldn’t never but it was a google search and I couldn’t see what it all said I was so curious!!!) so needless to say I’ve hinted my ring size to him last week and he was like oh ok that might come in handy sooner than later 🥰🥰🥰