My boyfriend and I have been dating for the past 2 months almost. We were initially dating two in half months ago, but I broke up with him due to lack of communication, time or effort on his part to be in any kind of relationship. He’s 39 and told me he works full time 7 days a week as a coach.

We initially dated, everything was great. Communication was nonstop for about 2 weeks, then things slowed. We never had sex (so that wasn’t it). He would always have this “go go go” attitude.

Anyways, we broke up for 2 months, and after those 2 months he came back apologizing saying he know what he did wrong as his previous relationships failed due to his busy lifestyle.

So here we are dating again, and this past Thanksgiving I had called him while I was at work (around 4pm) No answer. He texted me hours later, and wished me a happy thanksgiving telling me he hopes I enjoy it with my and my family. The dumbass had no idea I was working. And I was hurt that he couldn’t even return a phone call, let alone call me to ask exactly WHAT I was doing that day for the holiday.

I know it sounds crazy, but I doubt coaches work on Thanksgiving. Especially with junior players.

Is this guy wasting my time or so I truly need to jump on the bandwagon of him being so busy?

Let me tell you guys that he does come over to see me, as I will go over to see him. Not all the time, but 1x/2x a week. He bought things for my cat. He helps me around the house occasionally.

I don’t know what to think. I don’t know if he values me or if I’m something that validates him. He seems to be inconsistent A LOT!

Like he’ll plan for a brunch one morning, and will have me waiting on him to finish a phone conference he’s having. I waited 3 hours, and called him and texted with no response. Didn’t hear back the rest of the day. The next day I texted him how I felt. And he told me he was still at home waiting because his phone conference was pushed back. I told him that he was rude and inconsiderate, especially knowing that I had to go to work. I ended up being late to work waiting on him to tell me about where we are meeting for brunch.

There are times when we’ll go days without talking, and when I tell him how I feel, he’ll tell me that he’s super busy and tired, but that he misses me, and won’t seem bothered that we haven’t talked in days. Its not like we see each other everyday. Maybe 1x/ max 2x a week.

I’m a nurse, and I work two jobs, but I still have time to make for him.

I’m 24 btw.

I did my research. He isn’t married. No kids. But his number is registered under another name, in addition to a company name and under a woman’s name.