My husband and I have been trying to concieve for over 2 years... well tonight he read that a Male should get off before a female due to it helping the sperms mobility or whatever so that's what happened only after he got off that was it. He quit. I dont know about you women but I look forward to that orgasmic feeling. The release of all stress or emotions built up over the week. Needless to say I rolled over and silently cried while he rolled over and is now snoring... I feel furious, hurt, confused and used. I want a family so badly. But honestly and it may sound selfish, I dont want to TTC if it means sex without orgasming. Sorry not sorry. I'm a woman and I need that release too.