Im on the verge of hating my mother

This year has literally been the worst year of my life. I’ve been sexually assaulted, had to leave a well paying job, I was having pregnancy seizures, we got into a shit ton of debit, and I had a second trimester miscarriage.

My mother’s witnessed all of this and still feels the need to say hateful things. For instance I have always had depression but it’s been extremely bad this year, her solution is that I need to,” suck it up and take charge if I want to fix things.”

When I had my miscarriage I had to have a D&E so I was written off work for a few days. The week after my D&E I wasn’t feeling mentally stable enough to go back to work so I emailed my bosses telling them and they were completely fine with it (Ive worked for them for 3 years except for a couple months earlier this year when I was at the other job). My mother however felt the need to tell me that I was going to lose my job.

She did the same thing again today when I told her I wasn’t going to work because I have my postpartum doctors appointment today. An appointment I told my bosses about 3 weeks ago.

Before my miscarriage she was blaming my husband for our debt, even though it was my

fault. Two weeks after my miscarriage my husband got an amazing job offer that is a major pay increase, and has amazing benefits; but it’s in a different state. We talked to her to see if me and our son could stay with her for a month or two while he’s up there getting everything ready and she flat out said no.

She said,” (sons name) can stay here as long as you need but I don’t have room for (my name). She could probably sleep on her grandmas couch.”

She has every right to say no but she has an entire guest room and second bathroom that isn’t being used. And she let my sister and her two kids live with her several times because my sisters ex husband was a drug addict and couldn’t hold down a job.

(These are just things that have happened within the last 3 weeks)

I don’t understand why she’s being so hateful towards me, it’s ruining our relationship and Im on the verge of cutting her out of my life.