Relationship

Hey guys, I have a dilemma. My fiancé recently asked me to perm my hair or if I could wear wigs or weave more often. I told him that I won’t do it because I’ve been going natural for 8 years now. My hair is apart of my identity because I learned how to love and accept myself. He said that in relationship we need to make tough choices and when I asked him to cut off his locs he did it. What do you guys think?? Need answers.