Please help me
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 years I’m 24 and he’s 27, we have two daughters 6, 5 and another one on the way almost 19 weeks. We moved 5 hrs away from family 4 years ago for a job offer that he received.
I probably haven’t been to see my family in 3 years he went to see his family this year for his grandfathers funeral over the summer and in August went back to our home town to go out and party. We stayed home obviously both times.
I found out on Halloween while pregnant from his mouth that he had plenty of bitches and had been talking to several bitches. Telling them about our relationship. Plotting to obviously take it to the next level with them. We were having problems, but every time I asked if he was cheating he denied.
I guess he pretty much had been texting other people from his job (he’s a Walmart assistant manager).
He says he only hung out with one person one time. He told me he was gonna go out with work friends but come to find out went to a bar with some girl. He apparently never slept with her or anyone but had plans to do it she was just to much of a hoe for him. I mean what do you expect?
He has cheated before when we first got together and when I was pregnant with my second child 5 yrs ago. I mean we were very young so I thought he could be better.
I overcame being insecure and had no reason to think he would ever do any of that again. Then I was hit with this heartbroken.
So we talked and agreed on things that needed to happen. Non of them have happened. I’ve tried. When I’m not the one in the wrong.
So now my little sister just had her baby a couple days ago I wasn’t there.
He has a vacation this weekend I planned for us to go to my moms and stay a couple days like we would always do when we went down.
I’m not considering his family. I don’t really care to much to think about seeing them and am not worried about it. My kids have no relationship with them and don’t even know them. When we lived back home only person that was around was his mom.
He barely has a relationship with his family and it has been like that ever since he was a teenager probably. He will talk to someone on and off. They may ask about the kids but don’t even talk to them. I FaceTime my family pretty much everyday we always talk.
So he comes to me and we were talking about what we were gonna do with our dog we adopted in January when we went down. I told him obviously my mom doesn’t care she just wants to see us. So then he says i plan to take the kids to see my family when we go down.
Like I’m not included and should watch the dog at my moms or something. Umm nooo I’m their mother and don’t trust that without me around especially when they’ll be uncomfortable.
Blows into a huge fight about rights and name calling. How he can take them wherever he’s their dad, I have no rights because I’m a stay at home mom and he provides. And then the conversations over because he won’t talk. Im just like i don’t care it’s not about his family me and my kids haven’t seen my family in like 3 years!!! I don’t even want to think about them right now. And it’s not like he asked or brought up the idea it’s like he already planned it out. I just feel he’s selfish.
I don’t know what to do about anything. I just feel like I have no purpose and don’t know what to do to make anything better. daughters happily everyday when I’m so hurt and stressed out. I actually know I can’t make anything better with the way he is.
It’s so hard trying to raise my beautiful daughters and be happy when I’m broken and they can see it.
Please help with advice and kind words. I’m sorry it’s so long just have no one to talk to.
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