lowkey freak

hey y’all so i’ve been with my bf for almost two years now and our sex life is pretty vanilla. i mean there’s the casual choking and the 69 and hair pulling and all..... but honestly i’m tryna get dominated like i want him to fuck me like i’m a whore and smack me around tease me and ruin my orgasms or deny me of orgasms i wanna be tied up and chained down or have rules or something yanno? i say i’m a lowkey freak bc i want him to do all these things to me but idk how to talk to him about it.... like “hey babe do u mind uhhh tying me down and gagging me?” like what if he thinks it’s weird?? what if he’s not down with it? i mean, if he isn’t okay with doing that stuff then that’s totally fine and i’m not going to make him do anything he doesn’t want obviously.... but then like how would we go back to vanilla after that convo when he knows i want more????? sorry this is so long ha