How is household responsibility split up in your home?

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I’m currently 38 weeks pregnant, I’ve been staying home since about 20 weeks due to unforeseen circumstances. 
My fiancé works full time, tues-sat, 12pm-9pm. I do my absolute best to keep our space clean and picked up 24/7. I vacuum, do laundry, do dishes, keep family areas tidied, prepare baby clothes and areas, etc. which I feel is my “job” at the moment!
I’ve been struggled lately because though he works full time, he does nothing at home. When I say nothing- I mean NOTHING. if he does anything, it’s because I ask him to do it multiple times. No dishes, no laundry. If he eats at night he leaves his dishes in the bedroom, he leaves pop cans when he’s finished with them. He comes home from work and strips his clothes off into a heap on the floor-directly next to the laundry bin, and does the same before a shower. If the trash is full he’ll shove more in. Taking it out won’t even cross his mind. Last night there was a pile of clean laundry waiting to be folded (by me) on the bed and I told him it was clean. He then proceeded to grab it and put it in a corner of the room to get it off the bed. (However I stopped him and made him help me fold it.)  
I confronted him yesterday because I went out Christmas shopping and before I left I asked him to take the laundry out of the dryer while I was gone. I came home 3 hours later to it still in there and he said “he didn’t hear me ask him”. (Let it be known that he’s don that before and so when I ask him favors, I make sure he is completely focused on me. I literally stood a foot in front of him when I asked) 
He said he’ll try to do better but then I feel guilty because cleaning and picking shit up is my job at home while he’s at work. Plus with a baby coming in two weeks, I worry I’ll be doing everything for her and everything chore wise. Or I’ll constantly have to ask him to do things rather than him just seeing something that needs to be done and doing it. 
How do you manage this in your house?

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Well my opinion is if your not working I wouldn’t expect my partner to come home after a long day at work to then start cleaning etc when I’ve been at home all day. Think about it if it was the other way round, I’d be livid if I cane home to housework when my other half is at home all day.
HOWEVER he is a grown man  and should atleast he cleaning up after himself, leaving dirty dishes, trash full etc would annoy me I don’t expect to pick up after a grown man if it is simply down to laziness, but I would expect to do the bulk of the housework

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I'm a sahm to an 11yr old a 16mth old and I'm 24wks pregnant. My so works full time  but he still comes home every day and helps me with anything I need help with he also on his off days tells me to take it easy and rest because he knows I'm tired after chasing our 16mth old on the days he works but he doesn't complain at all and just gets up and helps without even being ask. I do as much as possible because I feel since he works it's my job but he feels differently he says we r in this together and it's his responsibility also.

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Im a stay at home mom so i basically dont do anything at home but cook amd clean and laundry and play with my babies so i 100% have no problem doing all house work because my husband works too damn hard to have to even more shit after work

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I’m a sahm, my husband works 14 hour days so I clean, cook and do all the other stuff like take baby to doc appts, grocery shop etc. but even though he works a lot, he always comes home, we eat dinner, and he puts our daughter to bed. Then if I need him to he helps me clean up the kitchen after dinner. I usually don’t ask but I’m 30 weeks pregnant and I need a little help now and then. He takes out the garbage in the mornings in his way out the door and he does his own laundry (his choice, not mine) there are days he leaves wrappers and plates on the table by the TV but I usually just ask him to pick them up now and he’s pretty good about it. Even though you stay home, you are not his slave or his mother. He is a grown up and is capable of helping you, even if that means bringing the dish to the sink. When the baby comes home it’s a huge adjustment period and I personally had a hard time keeping up with the cleaning and stuff for a few months until I got into a groove. You’re gonna need his help more than ever so I suggest really breaking it down for him how much help you will need and make sure he “hears you” (that’s so rude that he does that by the way!) hope you get it figured out.

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We both work full time. It’s 50/50. I cook, he does the dishes. I put clothes in washer he puts them in the dryer. 50/50.

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I had this problem with my husband for quite some time. After our second baby arrived he still didn’t understand I NEEDED help. If he didn’t put his clothes in the hamper. They didn’t get washed. If he didn’t do the dishes every once in a while when I really needed the help I didn’t cook and as far as the trash he has been alright at doing that or doing it when I ask. It was a process but he started helping or doing his own laundry. Stuff like that. The last talk we had about it explained it all to him about how I felt and that I needed some assistance from him. I let him know I appreciate him financially providing for us and I don’t ask him to do much. Once I talked to him and told him my feelings he’s been so awesome. If he cleans he picks up after himself put the laundry in the basket stuff like that. The clean laundry is still a work in progress but maybe tell him how it’s making you feel and just let him know that you would love it if he would help sometimes. It’s a joint effort and I’ll be honest it only gets harder after having a baby.

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My daughter is a holy terror, so housework has changed since she got mobile. I kept up with almost all the housework while pregnant with my daughter, but still fell short some days due to extreme morning sickness through the duration of the pregnancy. My husband still did his best to clean up after himself, though, and helped me when he realized I needed it. It’s not reasonable for him to leave dirty dishes all over the house, especially if you’re already doing the majority of the housework. My husband works 60 hours a week, and still makes time to help me with house chores, and makes sure I get a break from our terror of a two-year-old on the weekends, and in the evenings when we are in the same city. So, if you’re doing your best, I think he should be able to meet you in the middle.

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I’m a stay at home mom and husband works 10 hours a day, the rules are he picks up all of his dishes, cups, laundry, hair if he shaves, and helps me with our daughter and he does dishes or laundry on the weekend,  he will help me when I get overwhelmed too! If someone contributes to the mess they should help too!

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It sounds to me like you are doing a great job and he's taking advantage of it . I hear you he's working and providing but he still lives there so even if you do most of the housework he should definitely still clean up after himself . That's definitely not too much to ask . And once that baby gets here you're gonna be "working " 24/7 pretty much so he's gonna have to step up no matter that he works full time !! You guys are supposed to be partners so he has to start acting like it

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I'm A stay at home mom and my husband works 7/12s so I do mainly everything but if I'm sick or the kids are sick he will do the cooking and dishes.. But other than that he just picks up after himself and he always does the trash and takes the dogs out

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