Dear mother-in-law

I know you have been wondering what I'm doing as your daughter in law and why you don't have grandchildren from us. I know you finally asked your son today and he told you we have been trying for a few years and I am doing everything possible but have not been blessed yet. I know you wish us the best but I also know you talk a lot. I wish you wouldn't tell everyone but know that it is a big possibility and I should be prepared for others to find out and now I have to brace myself and develop some thicker skin as I will hear the inevitable "I'm sorry for your difficulties". Or " I hear your having trouble, we'll my so and so did this..." or other unwanted and unprofessional advice. I have been a good daughter, sister, friend, and wife. I just got a PhD and made everyone in my family and husbands family proud but that's not not enough, I am still in adequate I still fall short of being a complete "woman". Cultural expectations still hover over me like a dark cloud so I understand why u ask it's what we all grew up in. Growing up I heard my mom and aunts judge people who didn't have children because that's what people did and here I am being judged in the same culture. Maybe your son didn't tell you he hasn't gone to the doctor to get checked or that his overweight status isn't helping and could impair his fertility. Maybe he didn't tell u he doesn't eat or listen to me when I tell him to eat less sugar and healthy food or drink more water or go for a walk and not play that stupid video game. Maybe he didn't tell u that it could be him because the 3 doctor's I seen said I was healthy. Maybe he didn't tell you how my stress getting this PhD has played a part or the fact that he doesn't have a job yet and I'm supporting us both. But whatever, I told my own mother and asked for advice and she didn't care and changed the subject so here I am alone and preparing myself for another round of difficult conversations because everyone will known.