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Where do you ladies find these good men at?? I really want a good man but I’m afraid if I cut all cuts from my “suppose to be boyfriend” that lives with his baby mama I won’t find a good man I’m ready to move on and be happy in life I want to make my own lil family not feel like I have to be stuck with him forever when I feel he doesn’t even love me or wants a baby with me

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First things first, you need to develop standards. Figure out what you want. What are requirements (educated, degrees, job, childless, marriage-minded, etc)?
Those are your standards, stick to them and don’t even waste your time entertaining men that don’t meet those standards.
Start dating with marriage in mind (if that’s what you want in life), a date or three and you should already know what the man is like and whether he fits the bill.
Don’t waste your time and energy sleeping with men who don’t take you seriously and wants a serious relationship. 
Be patient, I was celibate for a year and a half until I met my husband, because I refused to settle for anything less than I deserved. Even if that meant being alone for extended periods of time.

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He lives with his baby momma? I’m your not his girlfriend your his side chick sorry stop looking for losers like this one to start that’ll go a long way

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i also think you’re skipping like 500 steps. your “boyfriend”  isn’t even your boyfriend and you’re talking about having babies with him? you also don’t need a man to jump on to the moment you leave your “boyfriend” having one on “backup” is pretty shitty to do honestly. i think you need a lot of growing up and focusing on yourself to do before you give the next man a run for his money.

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He lives with his baby momma.. yea bye 👋🏼

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I met my husband at TGIFridays thru some mutual friends afyer work one night. I don't think either of us were really looking for a relationship but we just clicked right away. I will say that it took time to love each other to the level where we both knew without a doubt that we wanted to be married. We got engaged at the 4 year mark and married 6 months later. Hard to believe it's been almost 7 years since we met.
There are good men out there!

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I found my husband playing xbox in a COD match LOL

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First things first. You’re never going to find a decent man if you’re with a guy that already has a woman. If a man is living with a woman that’s not is mother, aunt, or sister STAY AWAY because he’s only going to waste your time. 
You can find a good man anywhere but you have to discern their nature to know if they’re good for you. That means you have to keep your eye open and don’t make excuses for red flags that come up. For example as soon as you find out a man lives with his BM, you should stop 🛑 communication with him.

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yes, where is completely irrelevant i agree. i also agree that you need to set standards. once i knew what i wanted, it was so much easier because if you’re like me, the process of elimination is my bff. I actually met my husband on tinder but this is besides the point. my ex treated me like the tread on his shoes and i stayed with him, loyal, and loving and willingly sleeping in tents because we had no where else to sleep (when i had my parents house 40 mins away) i wanted to die but realized i didn’t, i just wanted the pain to stop, i wanted to be loved as much as i loved him. my husband has MORALS AND VALUES that equal up to mine. we share the same religion, we both don’t want to raise our child with single parents, we are closer in age, he respects me and especially when i say no and it comes to my body which is HUGE for me. the list goes on. know what you deserve. this is where the “you need to love yourself before you love anyone else” applies, and it’s because you have to know what you really deserve in order to give yourself the best chance at finding someone for who you truly are, not who you think you are in that moment. i hope this makes sense and helps!

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I agree with the other ladies.  It has nothing to do with where you find them it has to do with your standards.  How do you want to be treated?  Don’t let anyone treat you differently than you expect.  Nip crap in the bud the first time it happens.  No one is going to be perfect out the gate.  You should cut ties with the guy who lives with his baby mama... that sounds like more drama than needed and to put it bluntly with 3.5 billions men on the planet I am certain you will find another.   
I told a friend once if you’re not sure how you need to be treated imagine having a daughter... how would you want her to be treated because you deserve nothing less.

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Where is irrelevant.  You can find a good man almost anywhere.  The "how" is your issue. You need to set standards for what you want in a good man, Stick to them, and not get serious with a guy until you know him well enough to know if he meets your standards are not.
Relationships with shit men are the result of either rushing into a relationship without actually taking the time and applying your better character judgement or not setting high enough standards and sticking to them. 
It literally is simple as that.

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