I'm currently in my first serious relationship, I'm only 16. The guy in with is almost 18, the minute we both started to like each other he told me in the open he has anger issues, and he was abused by his mother for many years. The past month has been amazing with him but I've noticed little things, he's online but doesn't message me for hours, when we make plans he says to me yeah that will be fine if nothing comes up and he makes sure he says that everytime. He also justifies it sometimes, I'll say it's not right she abused you and you don't have to be in contact with her And he says yeah she did but I wasn't always a good kid. I know I might be completely over reacting but this is the first time I'm in love and it's new to me, I've never felt this emotion and I want to make sure that my first relationship doesn't become an abusive one. I know it might be unrealistic for me to be thinking like this but some of my family members have been in abusive relationships and I just want to be careful.