My Husband just learned that his Dad is not his biological father. I bought a DNA Ancestry kit and he got curious and bought one too. His Mom freaked out when she saw his results online. His family is big on researching and cataloging the family tree. They have a FB group dedicated to their family research with several senior members who manage it. His Mom is one of the family tree researchers and she called him immediately when she saw his results online. She was in a panic and asked him to remove his results and said her Husband/His Dad would kill her 😳

His Mom and Dad are both Black. My Husband does not look like either side of his family and we all just figured that his looks are from a White ancestor somewhere down the line. My Husband has dirty brown hair, blonde hair on his arms and legs. He also has green eyes. His family has always joked around with him that he’s adopted etc.; Turns out his Mom had an affair.

My Husband had an overwhelming amount of White British folks coming up on his DNA results as family members which we thought initially, ok that explains his look but his Dad never came up as a match 🤔

Now that we are expecting a baby I initially felt like I don’t want to perpetuate a lie and I wanted to be honest with my son about his cultural background but then I decided that as a mixed race person myself I can just explain to my son that our family is multiracial and bi cultural.

Edit: I’m on board with my Husband’s decision. He knows the biologicals name, the story of how they met but does not intend to make contact. My Husband’s family is awesome and his Mom is a good person too. She did what she thought was best at the time. I mean these folks have been married for over 40 years. My concern was more about the future. I can explain the diversity in our family.

Someday after my FIL passes away we’ll tell him the truth. What are your thoughts? Is this fair to my son while respecting my MIL’s wishes and protecting her marriage? My FIL is a really good man and in his 70s. Something like this would break his heart not to mention marriage.