Vent vent vent [parents rant] suuuuuper long

Not sure if this is the right place to post. My parents hate my spouse they think I completely fucked up my life when I married him and had my baby. They think I married him because of the baby. They think the baby happened by mistake because I was careless.

I started having sex when I was 18. My first was a complete asshole super manipulative made me feel like I was nothing. Then i met a guy 3 yrs older than me who hid his family from me for 6months and when confronted told me that i was only mistress material. who would want me right? At 19 i dated a guy almost 10 years my senior but he was a good guy, liked to drink tho and got aggressive when he had a little to many. At 20 I met the boy who I thought was the love of my life. Knew about all of the girls he had on the side and all the times he cheated but was still willing to run away with him to Texas. silly me.

I met my husband when I was 21. he was responsible hard working dedicated to his family making sure mom and siblings were okay. Dropped out of school when he was 15 so he could help mom pay the bills and put food on the table for the other three siblings. No he did not promise me the moon and the stars but he made me feel like I was among them. He treated me as an equal, he heard me, he saw me for me, he didn’t see me as someone he could use to help fix him, he helped me grow he pushed me to finish school he saw me. Asked me to marry him a year later when I was 22 and little did I know I had a little life growing inside me. Had my first baby at 22 and that little boy is the light of my eyes.

But see in my parents eyes my husband isn’t worthy because he never went to school and isn’t on the same level as I am. He’s never home with me and the baby but that’s because he’s working two jobs to make sure that even with the money I make , me and the baby have food and clothes. He’s never home because he’s making sure I have the financial stability I need. But I guess that makes him a terrible father and a terrible husband . He gets frustrated with the baby easily. Doesn’t like it when baby gets into places he’s not supposed to but that’s because his mother never let him do anything. He was expected to sit down and stay in one spot until mom told him it was okay to move. He’s nervous that baby might get in trouble if he doesn’t sit still because if he were to tell you about the whoppings he got you’d be scared to move too. But the baby is a baby. How is it possible that daddy has no patience? How is it possible that daddy can’t be with his son without scolding him?

You should leave him. He’s no good for you. You work you went to school you have a degree he doesn’t even have his high school diploma. He doesn’t even speak English why are you with him? Leave him it’s okay if your not happy leave him. How can things really be okay if your complete opposites? LEAVE HIM.

Then what. What about baby growing up without a daddy because grandma said he was never with you anyway so why does it matter. Grandma promises she won’t throw it in my face that I left him. Grandpa promises he’ll still be proud of me even if I end up a single mother. Grandma and grandpa will tell everyone daddy left because he wasn’t a good man they won’t tell them it’s because they pushed mommy so hard into leaving daddy for their own good. So now what? Should mommy take you away from grandma and grandpa so they stop spitting their hate or does mommy leave daddy so they can get back to their happy lives. Either way mommy ain’t happy so now what? What’s next?