Would you appreciate this or hate it after losing pregnancy? *update

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Long story short, good friends of ours just had to suffer a medical termination due to ectopic pregnancy. The fetus turned into a blood clot from the chemo shot and the wife has to have surgery to have it removed. My husband and I just want them to know we’re thinking of them and praying for them without being intrusive or pretending we understand how they feel. Question is would you want to receive an edible arrangement with a sympathy message saying something simple like “Thinking of You Today” OR would you rather just not get anything or have it a acknowledged? Friend is finally comfortable talking about her experience and can get through her story without crying, but we know they’re in pain and just want them to know we love and support them and are so very sorry for their loss without being overwhelming. 
**posting anonymously incase she’s on this app
Thank you all for your comments, I genuinely appreciate the feedback. Her surgery was yesterday so today my husband and I sent flowers in her favorite colors and a card.

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I was really hurt that some people I expected to be there for me after my miscarriage said nothing at all. The people that took the time to send me a card, flowers or just to tell me how sorry they were for our loss meant a lot. I wanted our baby to be acknowledged and talked about 💕

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I think an edible arrangement is fine.

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I think bringing them a meal would be a great idea, if you’re close to them. They may not want to cook at this time and to be honest, edible arrangements are work to deal with, because the fruit goes bad so quickly lol

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I was honestly extremely hurt when I had an ectopic pregnancy and it was not acknowledged by people it should have been acknowledged by (aka certain close family members for both of us) everyone wanted to act like it didn’t happen or that I wasn’t allowed to be extremely upset about it happening.....everyone is of course different but I think it’d be a very nice gesture of you and wouldn’t be taken badly.

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When I had my first ectopic pregnancy and had to have surgery. A very good friend of mine made me a beautiful sunflower cake that said " just because " on it. It was truthfully sweet and very needed.

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Yes, people reaching out has been better than being alone. A bunch of our family and a few friends came and visited (we live 2 hours away from all friends and family) and brought us food. The ones who couldn’t make it sent flowers and we appreciated the thoughts.

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When I had a miscarriage, everyone from my job signed a card and sent flowers to my house which really meant a lot to me. I’m sure anything you do, they will gratefully appreciate.

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I was surprised by flowers being delivered from my best friend the day of my D&C and honestly it was the best thing for me. It made me feel loved and comforted although she wasn’t there with me. It helped me feel not as alone and my husband was gracious for the gesture as well. I think anything you choose to do would be a kind gesture and not intrusive.

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I think it’s a beautiful gesture.

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I think it depends on the person but I wouldn’t go w an edible arrangement if your gonna send something.  It just seems like an edible arrangement is too much celebratory.  I think a simple card or
Card and flowers would be more
Fitting if you do send something.

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