Mr. Wonderful

Boyfriend appreciation post. Last Friday afternoon while I was driving home from my last client of the day I heard a clang and my car started to shimmy. I figured I blew a CV joint/control arm, but it turns out I cracked my front left axle. Awesome. My boyfriend does repairs out of a shop about 5 miles from my house but he didn’t want me driving it there this weekend in case the rest of the axle blew. He was supposed to take it Sunday afternoon but the shop was closed for the weekend because the owner had an unexpected family emergency. My job requires me to put a bunch of dogs in the car so I can’t use just any vehicle, mine is perfect for this job so I really needed it back on the road fast. Boyfriend tells me “No problem baby, I got this”

Mr. Wonderful woke up at 6 this morning to limp my car to the shop and get it fixed before I had to pick up my first dog this morning. I got a call about a half hour after he left, the rest of the axle blew out and the car lost power, it died on the side of the highway. He doesn’t have AAA because he has towing through his insurance so I called AAA and sent a tow truck for him... almost 2 hours. Almost 2 freaking hours for them to get to a broken down car on the side of a HIGHWAY before rush-hour traffic. I know it’s not AAA’s fault because they are just a middleman, but the tow truck dispatch location is less than a mile from where he was so I don’t understand why it took that long. I was livid. It was 18° this morning and my car had very little gas in it so he didn’t want to keep it running with the heat on for fear of running out of gas. He sat his ass in the cold for almost 2 hours with my car to wait for the truck. Finally it gets there and he gets my car to the shop. Awesome. back in my own world, my daughter procrastinated moving her ass this morning and missed her school bus so I had to use my boyfriend’s car to drive her through the busiest part of my city at 8:30 in the morning to get her to school… I was super stressed out. I dropped her off at school and realized I didn’t have my client keys, they were in my broken down car. We were expecting that he would take the car early and have it back before I had to start work, so I didn’t think to take my keys out. Urghh. So I had to drive over to the shop to get the keys then drive BACK in the opposite direction again to start picking up my clients. By now my anxiety is at like an 8 for the day, I knew my daughter was safely at school and my boyfriend was safely off the road but I was stressing out about the day. Boyfriend called me a couple of hours later to let me know that the car was totally fixed and that he was driving it back home so we can swap cars again and I can have my dog car back. But the nature of my day is that I don’t know exactly where I’m going to be at what time, I’m out driving all the time. So he drove to one of my client’s houses and sat in the driveway for 20 minutes waiting for me so we could swap cars. He even put gas in it since it was practically on fumes.

He never complained. He never rolled his eyes. He never told me to hurry up. He never seemed the least bit annoyed that my car issue basically ruined half of his day. He had a physical therapy appointment this morning but he pushed it back to accommodate my needs. He had other things to do today that he also pushed back because I needed help. He went out of his way to meet me to swap cars. He put gas in my car. And he kept telling me that he’s just so glad it happened while he was driving it and not me because he couldn’t stand the thought of me having to be stranded somewhere. Like, it’s not his car! It’s not his job! But he was so thankful it happened on his watch and not mine because he wants to keep me safe. I paid for the parts because I can’t allow him to do that, but he didn’t charge me a dime to put them in. He has also done brakes/oil changes/tire repair for me without charging me anything, and has done several jobs on my mother’s car as well. He loves us and wants to take care of us, and doesn’t want a damn thing in return.

This is not an isolated incident, he does things like this for me All. The. Freaking. Time. I’m addicted to Hostess Snoballs, if I’m having a rough day he’ll come home with a Snoball. Or a dumdum lollipop. Or a cannoli. I’ve always got his warm strong arms waiting to hold me at the end of a tough day, or at the end of any day really. He’s just there for me 100% no matter what. He kept telling me that this will be a funny story to tell later on and not to stress, that there’s nothing we can’t handle.

To top it all off, today is the anniversary of his cousin’s unexpected death (it was 11 or 12 years ago). His cousin was his best friend and it’s an emotionally devastating time for him every year. His birthday is 3 days after the day his cousin died, so he doesn’t even like celebrating his birthday anymore because he misses him so much. So on the day when he could really use some extra love and support, he turns around and gives it to me. I don’t know when I’m ever going to be able to do to repay him for what he has done for my heart and soul but goddamnit I’m going to try. He’s got dinner and a foot massage waiting for him tonight, he also said he has never baked a cupcake from scratch so I’ve got all the ingredients for us to make some cupcakes tonight. That’s all he wants.

Ladies, these men exist. They are out there. Just wait for yours, and don’t settle for less. And once you find one, make sure you behave in a way that keeps you worthy of his dedication to you.