How do you bring up problems in a relationship?

Question

I’m not very good at bringing up issues that i would like to change. Maybe because with my ex he would turn everything around on me, idk. My new bf and i have been together 2 months and we haven’t fought or brought up and problems. However, i want to bring one up. He doesn’t text me much. It’ll get to be like 8pm and i haven’t heard from him and i always have to be the one to reach out. In the beginning he was really good about texting and calling but now it just doesn’t happen. I don’t need constant contact 24/7 but hearing from him in the morning and a little at night would make me happy. How do i word this and when is the right time to bring it up? I just don’t want to mess anything up.

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My husband HATES his phone. If it goes off like twice a day he's ready to throw it away. I see him all the time so usually it's not an issue. But the past couple weeks I've been gone for 4-5 days at a time. So I just straight up said "I need you to talk to me while I'm gone." now I'm stuck in classes 8-5 but there's times(like now) that I get breaks. And when I'm back at the hotel. It wasn't an issue. He understood.
If this was a long term thing id handle it the same way. "I need more. Not much more. But more. Text me more throughout the day and then youll have a happy wife." (gf in your case.)
We also do a lot on Instagram. I send him everything I want to share with anybody. And I can see when he "views" it. But if he "hearts" the videos, I know he watched it and that's as good to me as a text honestly. Just another small way we stay connected. Sometimes I use that to message him too. So if you have an app like that, maybe that could help you get by a bit better too.

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You should sit down with him in person (if you can) and talk to him. If not in person then at least over a phone call. Through text sometimes if things aren’t worded perfectly it can be offensive to the other person, and can cause unnecessary arguments. Sit down with him at a time he isn’t stressed, and just tell him how you’re feeling. Don’t say things like “you don’t text enough” instead say, “I would really like it if you could text me a little more throughout the day. I don’t expect you to talk to me 24/7, but it would make me feel more appreciated if I can hear from you a little more.” Or something like that. You should get a book on proper communication! Me and my husband used to fight like crazy, mainly because neither of us could properly communicate and instead we would fight and argue.

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With mine whenever we have to say something to each other we’re very upfront. Just “hey I just wanted to say something.”

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Just be upfront.. just remember ur ex is not the same as ur current bf and if he is then he doesn’t respect ur opinions.

How do you bring up problems in a relationship?

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