I’ll be 30 weeks pregnant tomorrow and I still haven’t told my mom...

And haven’t told a single person in my family. I never announced to anyone or on social media. I’m really not sure how to even tell her since it’s been so long. Yes, I am taking prenatals and baby is very healthy. She is measuring around 2.5 lbs now. My bump is still easy to hide with the right clothing so she honestly has no idea. My sister in law is being induced tomorrow so she’s been pretty worked up over that but this entire situation is giving me the worst anxiety, especially since the baby’s father is not involved. Honestly just considering surprising her with a baby at this point lmao 🤷🏻‍♀️

Edit: I have thought about telling her months ago, but the anxiety stops me every time. My mother has never been supportive. Every time I have ever tried to talk to her she grunts at me, like if I say hi or anything, and just gives me a dirty look. So I just never talk to her about anything personal. She wishes me dead all the time or wishes I was never born. So I figured I’d rather just save myself the stress and not say anything. Because if I did she would just judge me for not being married (she is very religious, and my “BF” of 3.5 years tried to force me into an abortion at 10 weeks and ended up cheating on me), and yell at me saying I’m irresponsible and ask how I’m going to afford everything, even though I’ve already worked my ass off to get a stroller, crib, pack n play, tons of clothes, and so many other things all by myself 😔

Also I live in the northeast and it is extremely cold here so I just wear a jacket or a big sweater and you would never be able to tell lol

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An

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GIRL HOW DO YOU DO IT???? wanna see pictures of your belly & how you hide it!

la

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Let me tell you this. God blessed you with that baby to fill your heart with love. I’m a Chris and I know that being religious has nothing to do with having a real relationship with God. It was the people who claimed to love God who crucified Christ. Know that God loves you and your gonna be the best mom you can be. I don’t know how old you are or if you have your own place but I will help you find resources if you need it❤️ Do what’s best for you even if that means leaving.

la

la • Jan 22, 2019
Soooo perfectly said ❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼

To

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That’s sad. You should share the good news! Having another grand baby will be exciting. Why have you waited this long? Just tell her you didn’t know till recently. Plenty women get their periods throughout. So it would be too far fetched. Just tell her. She will wNt to know what you are going through

Li

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I was one of those surprise babies lol My mom turned 19 the day before I was born but she was still scared of her dad. And guess what? Everything was ok 👍🏼 The world didn’t end. He didn’t beat her ass. He didn’t kick her out. He accepted it because that’s all there was left to do. No, it’s not the same for everyone but your mom can’t change anything. You are pregnant. You are her daughter. You are having her grandchild. And I hope everything works out for you ❤️ P.S. My dad wasn’t in the picture either. I had a strong mom who took care of us by herself. I didn’t need a dad with her. I know my dad now. I didn’t meet him until 2010. We just clicked as if we’ve always known each other. And I’ve never held anything against him. Everyone’s life story is a little different. Good luck to you.

an

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also, you should tell her! you never know, it might make you two more close...

la

la • Jan 22, 2019
Perfectly said

an

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maybe suggest her to go to therapy with you and discuss it there

Ap

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I wouldn't tell her if she is such a vile woman to you 🤷 just be like surprise you are a grandma. She shouldn't hold it against you since she always wishing you dead and crap. Your pregnancy going great keeping it a secret telling her may cause you unnecessary stress.

De

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Do it! Hide it then call her when you’re in labor she won’t have time to process it or even be mad lol especially while holding a new baby 💕

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L • Jan 22, 2019
Labor or not if the woman is as foul as described that ain't changing anything

Ma

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How old are you? Do you live alone or still at home with her? If you live alone (knowing you already bought lots of baby stuff and she doesn’t know I guess you do) I don’t even see why you still have any contact with her. She wishes you dead or never born? Sorry, if I could afford it I’d never see her again.

Fr

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Do you have much to do with your mum? It sounds like she acts really poorly toward you so i understand not telling her, if i were you i would probably never have anything to do with her at all tbh. I think maybe weigh up if it’ll be more stressful to tell her before the baby is born or after. You want to minimise stress for yourself and baby as much as possible. Do you have anyone that will be able to provide support for you once you’ve had the baby? Will you need help from her? If you dont need help from her then thats helpful for if she reacts badly to you telling her because you don’t need to see her and could ignore her negativity. Hopefully her reaction takes you by surprise though and she is excited to have a new grandbaby