I need a lot of advice, please. My babe’s parents are divorced and don’t get along, my parents are in another city an hour away so the plan was to gather his family and friends in his city for one baby shower then my city for another baby shower with my friends and family. Problem is, because his parents don’t get along, his dad has taken upon himself to throw a baby shower for us, strictly (his) family. My babe has expressed he doesn’t want three baby showers, he wants his family to get along for the sake of our child and we throw the one (in his city). I never had a problem with his dad or mother so to see my babe get irritated that his dad is planning his entire thing, it feels like my voice of reason is coming off as not being on my babe’s side. His dad speaks to us separately about it which makes me a little uncomfortable considering it’s for both of us, especially after my babe said he doesn’t want to go forward with it, his dad is texting me that they’re still doing it.. my mom, the ear outside of it says to go forward with three cause we’re first time parents, we’re going to need everything we can get and I agree with her and again, I don’t have issues with his dad to go against it but here’s my babe saying “he’s always been like this, he’s always tried controlling these things (family events). And I don’t want to hear the BS that it’s HIS grandson (first grandchild) because that’s MY son.” And I kinda agree on that to the extent of, he hasn’t tried talking to us as a group, it’s one or the other and I find that really weird.. I think my mom was on to something but my babe is strongly against it as his past is getting loud.. i don’t know what to do.