Long but I need to vent and help.

So months ago I had a set date for my twins baby shower and my sisters decided they would take over the planning to avoid any extra stress on me. Well they planned an all girl baby shower (no spouses) and I knew that’d be a problem with my husbands family because they refuse to go to the restroom without their husbands (all because my in laws taught them this). Coming the week before the baby shower ,(mind you everything was planned close to the date just because there isn’t much to prepare), I ended up going to the hospital for contractions at 29weeks of pregnancy.

I had still been feeling super pained but they sent me home like I knew they would.

Anyways I sent out a group thread with my sisters in law, sending them the invitation and explaining it’s an all girl thing but to not feel obligated because we decided we would throw another one for their family to come coed. I got no responses at all even though it said please rsvp.

My mother in law was leaving to mexico on the day of my baby shower so I didn’t bother to invite her because her flight would be an hour before the shower. *my husband told me to not invite her for this reason*

Come sunday before my shower we are all at my sister in laws and my husband asks so mom what time would you like me to go for you guys to take you to the airport. She immediately started being rude explaining I didn’t invite her to the baby shower and how she’s the grandma and the grandma always has to go (the whole time she’s addressing me but not looking at me and waving her hand in my face).

My husband explained that he didn’t want me to invite anyone from the family because we were going to do another one for his family. She stormed off and has continued to be a hurtful person to my husband. As soon as she left my sister in laws could tell I was borderline crying and when my husband tried to explain its bs she treats me like that they began to defend the evil and told him to not be rude because it will give me the green light to do the same.

All they could say is, she just misses her son and she feels like you took him from her.

Ummm, what?

Not only that but I had just been in the hospital two days prior and everyone knew I was making the effort of hanging out when I had terrible braxton hicks. So I feel she is so selfish.

Does anyone have any advise on what I should do? I am just fed up with everyone defending evil just because it’s their mom.

Right is right, wrong is wrong.