My boyfriends mom is a heavy smoker and we do not allow our child around cigarettes, we told her that if she is to hold him she will change her clothes before hand. She doesn’t fucking listen. She will go smoke and then pick our infant up right after and when my boyfriend tells her to go change she ignores him and continues on. That is so disrespectful to me, and I barely bring him to her house now or let her see him maybe twice a month. Really makes me upset, that is our child and those are our rules, respect them.