Yesterday I was in the car with my boyfriend dropping him off at work and along the way we started talking about the baby and when it comes and what not and I mentioned to him that although his ex wife and him are getting along better now I do not want her at the hospital after the baby comes. He has two boys and I said that she could drop them off and see the baby once we are settled in our house. He proceeded to tell me that he thinks that's rude of me. I for one do not think that's rude at all. I should be able to pick and choose who comes to visit me at the hospital. I also am not a big fan of her nor do I think she's all that great of a mother to her children. We have also spent the last three holidays (thanksgiving Christmas and his oldest birthday) together. And I get it I am totally down to be together for the boys sake during the holidays! I'm actually the one who originally suggested it... however I do not want to spend all my firsts with his ex wife. Are the pregnancy hormones taking over and I'm in the wrong or is it fair of me to feel this way? I even told him he could walk downstairs grab the boys and tell her she can come visit once we're settled that way it sounds nice and everyone wins in my opinion!! Please ladies let me know your honest opinions!!