Currently going through a hard time with my husband (actually it's always felt hard)

For those that both work. Does your husband/partner help when your baby/child let's just say goes through the more difficult times like when there sick and there constantly waking up, if there hard to get to sleep, unsettled as a newborn ect

We have a 2 1/2 yr old and I'm 18 weeks pregnant and everytime our toddler is being difficult he becomes very selfish and it's always a big argument to get some help yet im always there for him if he needs me.

It's been like this since she was an unsettled newborn with her silent reflux.

I'm gonna say 8 of 10 times it's a massive fight.

He parents every other way except when its difficult or stressful. Weve spoken alot about this.