I guess I’m just looking to see what your thoughts are on this. So I’ve been seeing this guy for about 4 months, it’s been moving very slowly but that’s not a bad thing. I also don’t want to sound like I’m complaining about this, I’m not! Just wondering what people think. Every single time we go out, he pays. We both have our own houses, decent jobs and earn about the same. Neither of us have kids or any other big commitments money wise. Now obviously I think it’s lovely that he always pays, he’s the nicest person I’ve ever met and he’s very genuine, I don’t think there’s any ulterior motive to him always paying (I say this purely because I’ve been in a very controlling and manipulative relationship previously and there WAS an ulterior motive behind absolutely everything that seemed like a simple nice gesture) but it makes me feel bad! I’ve always liked to be independent, and I like being able to contribute. I don’t want it to become a thing that he feels he’s responsible for this and has to pay for everything all the time. I’d like to even just half in sometimes, even if I don’t pay for the whole dinner or whatever we’re doing. I have brought this up and he just says stop worrying and he likes being able to take me out. Do I just leave it and try to relax about it? Am I moaning about nothing?!