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Question

I’m the mother of the sweetest most demanding 2.5 year old. I can’t seem to find a routine which includes taking care of her, myself, the house (cooking, laundry, cleaning etc) my husbands needs, everyday life etc. I have let myself go in a sense - living in yoga pants and hair in a bun. How do you all manage your life? Oh, and I hate always feeling like I’m in a hurry.

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My husband and I have split up a lot of things so I don’t do it all. I cook dinner and he plays with the kids. So I get some alone time in that (plus I enjoy cooking). Then he cleans the kitchen so I can just chill a little, usually our kids have independent play at this time. 
My husband does bath time every night to get some more time with our 2.5 year old. This gives me a good 30/40 minutes of alone time. Sometimes I do give our baby a bath during this time, but that take 10 minutes since she doesn’t play yet. We then switch off every other night putting or 2.5 year old to bed. So that gives me even more me time on those nights. 
As for during the day, I take me time during nap time. (My son only naps for an hour anymore) NAP TIME IS NOT HOUSE WORK TIME! 
I have scheduled out as Mondays are laundry day so it’s not an every day thing. Also we do cleaning on Saturdays so my husband can help and I don’t do it all.

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I agree with some one else who said nap time is not work time. Think of it like a mandatory brake at work. Eat some candy watch trash tv or go sit outside or in the dark and just have some quiet time. 
My husband is a truck driver and is gone for weeks at a time and I do really only survive with the routine we have. It’s not much different then what I read for most of you I simply don’t let things interfere or push around the schedule by much. I try to eat when she eats and only go out for errands within the time I have between meals. ( I live up a mountain so it’s a 25-45 min drive to do anything) it’s hard and most of my anxiety comes from not fitting things in that I would like to go and do. 
I also live in my pjs or yoga pants and never do more then a ponytail. Except for days we need to be in public like dance class or to visit family. I just try not to let it get to me that my life and sacrifices are all for this 2 1/2 year old that doesn’t even know realize it. 
So the only other thing I do that gives me a chance to breath is when my husband is in town I go grocery shopping BY MYSELF or even the stupidest errands like go pick up dinner (again on the mountain nothing is close or delivers) and so in that 30 min round trip I blast my music and drive slow and enjoy the view. The simple things help be get back a piece of my self I loose. 
As do the husbands that need to be treated like another child, (this is almost all men including mine from time to time) I care when I can tell it’s really needed and then just make him deal with his spawn when I need the break. Example being if I want to take a long shower I just walk away say I’m showering and go lock the door and that’s a rap. 
I think we are our own worst enemy. Deep breaths we all got this!

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This is me too. My 2.5 year old is hearing impaired so I spend so much time one on one so he kind of understands what’s expected of him. I get so annoyed when my husband comes home and sticks his feet up and plays on his iPad saying he needs some me time.  My day is literally the same getting us up get breakfast cooked, try to scramble to clean the house in the half hour he’s eating. Get him showered and dressed along with myself. Which usually equals throwing on a pair of leggings and sweater. Doing some sort of one on one activity, errands, and then rushing to start lunch and get it ready. Clean up lunch and then sit down to eat a little myself.  I usually put on a tv show for him at this point to clean up again around the house. It’s 1:30 and usually nap time, take the 45 minutes to get him down for a nap. Exhausted sometimes I nap myself or try to get the rest of the things I should get done along with figuring out what’s for dinner. Then he wakes, another snack, another one on one play and then my husband’s getting home. I’m also 37 weeks pregnant and physically and mentally exhausted when 6:30 rolls around but then I have to start dinner, eat, clean, get the baby to bed and when all is said and done my feet go up at nearly 9

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The struggle is real! You are not alone. Finding time to blow dry my hair, shave (not just the bottom half of my legs), and dear lord... dare I say... get a manicure & pedicure?! Gasp! I wish!! That’s all nonexistent. Messy bun, and yoga pants for the win, because life permits nothing more

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I also have a 2.5 year old and this is my life. I’m always in a rush.. to get up and cook breakfast, clean the kitchen back up, get a load of laundry done. Make it to nap time.. sometimes I nap too other times I deprive myself of sleep for “me time”. I always regret it. After nap time I’m also rushed to plan and cook dinner, straighten up the house, bathe my daughter and myself and clean the kitchen once again after dinner is cooked and put away. Then I usually deprive myself of sleep even more at night to get in a little bit more “me time”, a show, intimacy, or a glass of wine. Just to do it all over again the next day. I’m starting to think no routine IS my routine.

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