I’m in an odd “ex” situation...

Buckle up because this is a weird one.

I don’t know how to feel or what to do about this situation.

I don’t know whether not I should be concerned or what I should do about it.

Basically;

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now. He’s honestly one of the most wonderful people I have ever met in my entire life. I’ve been in love before I felt the butterflies but with him everything is completely different, he feels like home. He’s the sweetest guy I know he’s overly nice to a fault and he’s by far the most kindest person I’ve ever been in a relationship with. I’ve always wanted a sensitive guy for myself and I definitely got that.

However his kindness is kind of his Achilles’ heel.

He told me about his ex back when we were just friends before we started dating. She basically left him for his best friend (ouch move).

He was completely devastated and he had a strong distaste for her (for obvious reasons).

A few months into our relationship he ran into her at his job. She seemed really upset and said that she wanted to talk to him.

Of course being the boyfriend he is he asked me if I would be OK with that too which I promptly said “no, not really.”

He then did it anyway without telling me until AFTER he did saying “ I didn’t wanna lie to you about seeing her but I also didn’t want to tell you so youd get upset, which is why am telling you now”

Apparently they went to a mall together and had a lunch, to which he found out then that not only did the guy she left him for was abusing her very severely (she had bruises all over her body). She also was PREGNANT with his ex-best friends child. (I know it sounds crazy and like I’m making it up but I promise you I’m not).

He heavily cried whenever he told me because I was upset. He kept saying I knew there was a bad vibe with her she had bruises all over her body she’s in a really bad situation I just wanted to be there for her ect.

Knowing him and knowing that his job kind of requires him to be this generous in listening to people I promptly let it go and said it was OK, and then I’m happy he was honest with me.

(Also in that MY previous ex abused me so I kind felt for the girl)

The father is not involved in fact the father has no idea that she even had the baby (for the sake of safety of course) also she doesnt have anyone else. She lives with her aunt cause her parents basically abandoned her, and even still doesn’t really want to be involved.

Apparently she’s been a part of his friend group since childhood and they’ve known each other for years, I actually later MET her in a group outing when she was farther along in her pregnancy. She’s very quiet and timid, and very nice and didn’t seem to be “making any moves on my man”. She also had scars and left over bruising so it was apparent to me that this was not a fabricated story that he had made up.

SO

the reason why this is relevant today is because she recently had her baby and my boyfriend went to see her without me. (I was aware he wanted to go and asked for my blessing first and initially wanted me to go with, but i had to work)

I don’t wanna be mad because I genuinely feel for her situation and I know he’s not gonna leave me for her.

But I can’t help but be a little bit bothered by the whole thing and whenever I explain it other people they seem to have the same reaction. It kind of bothers me that he had gone out of his way to be with her and also to be with her when I’m not there (those 2 times). It also kind of concerns me that his face lights up whenever he talks about her. He constantly reassures me that she’s part of his past but I feel like that’s not quite true because he’s not really leaving her there.

I don’t know whether to be mad or to support his decision and helping this very sad girl. Because like I said my previous ex abused me and I feel for her and I want someone to be there for her I’m just not sure if I want it to be my boyfriend. I’m also afraid that he Kinda still has feelings for her and he’s not admitting it.

Because I remember him expressing his distaste for her saying how horrible she was for doing that to him and then she just walks back into his life and he pretends like it never happened.

I’m completely conflicted I don’t know how to feel or how to really react to the situation I’ve never heard or seen anything like this before,

Help?