Baby Fever?? Help!

Hi ladies,

My partner (28) and I (19) are at a crossroads. We both want children now, but know we should wait. We live together in a nice rental 2x2 apartment, but need to buy a new car. He’s working casual as a gardener, with the knowledge his hours will be severely restricted over the coming winter months. I am deciding wether or not to take a working traineeship, or go to university. I am confident that either route I’ll go, I’ll be able to find adequate work. My partner wants to be a stay at home dad, but I’m afraid if we decide to start trying to conceive in the next 6-12 months, that it would jeopardise my chances of building my experience in my chosen field. We have also discussed waiting another 2 years or so to start a family, giving us enough time to become more financially stable.

I have so many options that I can’t decide where to look. Has anyone been here? Will I be throwing my life away if we have kids now? Is it bad I wish I was a male in this situation?