We no longer sleep together... should I be concerned?

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So for the past couple weeks my husband and I haven’t been sleeping together and I didn’t really notice it at first. So I work from 10pm and get off at 6am. Whenever I come home my husband would be sleeping in the bed. Lately when I’ve been coming home he’s sleep on the couch, I wake him up and tell him to come to bed with me and he stays on the couch, not in a rude manner. We haven’t argued or anything. We had sex and cook dinner the other day. There isn’t much tension so I feel weird for asking because I don’t want it to seem like I’m overreacting. So I sleep in the bed by myself which is okay sometimes cause I’m too exhausted to care . Also, he normally wakes me up and we start our day. It’s just weird and I guess I’m asking if you ladies think I should be concerned or not.

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Don’t be concerned! I’d guess he doesn’t want to wake you when he gets up or he sleeps better on the couch. My husband has been sleeping on the couch for like 9 months and I have the bed with two cats and a dog 😂😂 I sleep really well in the beginning of the night. And I like complete darkness a sound machine and no tv. He sleeps really well after two am ish. And he sleeps with the tv on, shades open. 
So no don’t worry. But definitely ask him about it but not in an accusatory way or anything :)

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Just ask him about it in a nice genuinely curious way.

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Just ask him. Sleeping apart is rarely the cause of problems in a relationship. It’s almost always an effect. That said, for many couples, sleeping apart actually solves a problem in their relationship (ie for whatever reason one or both people cannot get good sleep sharing a bed). When people consistently cannot get good sleep, then that’s a problem.

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Maybe he feels lonely in a big bed at night.

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I wouldn't be concerned. Maybe ask him how his night went? Maybe he just fell asleep on the couch watching TV lately?

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I sleep on the couch alot i can rarely sleep n get by on very lil so im up all night some nights..i just go to the lr couch n watch tv till i hopefully doze off also i leave for work 3am m-f..i do it bc i dnt wanna wake him as he needs his sleep n i try to treat him as he does me when i do get sleep..plus omg his snoring kills me....he would ask in the begining y i dnt sleep in the bed n i told him y he says i dnt have to but thanks me anyways cuz fr im loud at night..besides when i do sleep in the bed we sleep weird..we sleep opposite his feet r at my head n vice versa plus i have pillows all around me n i cover up with a millon covers he sleeps only with his feet covered....total opposites lol..

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Maybe you are snoring or moving in your sleep so he gets up and moves. When my husband snores I’ll go in the guest room (or he will) cause then I cant sleep at all.  I need silence plus the noise of a fan- anything else and i cant fall asleep

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This was happening to me recently. I'm 9 months pregnant so I figured it was that but I was scared to ask cause I didn't want to offend him. I finally got a chance during casual conversation and he said he hadn't really even noticed (lol men!). After that he's been putting in more effort. Just casually bring it up.

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Not to say this is the case but when my husband stated sleeping on the couch is when issues started happening. Definitely talk about it.

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It doesnt seem like you should be. But deff talk to him ((: get on the couch with him, if it's big enough. ((:

We no longer sleep together... should I be concerned?

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