My friend is a bad mom

I think my friend isnt a good mom and only keeps her son for the child support. Her house is always disgusting yet she's always posting about cleaning up. I stopped going over because she left a turkey dinner on her table for about 3 weeks and the smell was bad. The garbage never gets taken out..it's hard to hang out because it's really stinky.

I take her kid every weekend because he just never gets any attention and she definitely favours her older daughter. When I do hang out with her she and her daughter are like shut up, go away to her son. I find I have to force her to include him in anything. They were over at my place and I watched her son try about 6 times to hug or even get any type of affection from her and I watched her shoot him down EVERY.SINGLE.TIME it actually made me lose a lot of respect for her over the few months I've known her.

The dad said he wanted to take the boy because he thinks that he would have a better life with him and frankly I believe he would. He would have love and affection and not be put down on a daily basis. He's mentally behind and for sure has ADHD/Autism spectrum and I had to basically be like your kid is on the spectrum because I have training and understand when a child is struggling but he's definitely neglected emotionally.

I've been distancing myself because I just have had enough of her behaviours and I don't find going over and cleaning someone's house out of pity for kids fun anymore. I used to think she just needed help because she was struggling single mom but she's just fucking lazy and doesn't care.

Sorry for the negative rant but I just needed to say it to someone.

Note to say I used to work in the child care industry but don't anymore for some years. I have been thinking that would be the case (calling) and this just reinforces my feelings. Making the call, I just wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt. I grew fond of her and let my emotions take the wheel in that respect.