So I’m currently dating this intelligent, beautiful Bajan man. We’re both seniors in college, he’s in a black frat and he’s very intellectual. I’m an artist and I’d like to say i’m pretty smart as well.

We’ve bee “talking” for a few months and I must admit in the beginning, it was a bit rocky because we didn’t quite get the hang of each other. But he is extremely sensitive! And i’m a pretty blunt individual! I never intend on hurting him but i manage to upset him at times.

I also feel like i always have to prove myself to him. I bring him lunch at his internship, I invite him over to my apartment for our game nights (he’s introverted so..), I attempt to plan dates that never seem to happen bc it’s always something. The only time we manage to get together is when I want a quick fuck or we run into each other at a party, or i’m bringing him lunch. Don’t get me wrong, we talk on the phone and have very interesting conversations and he is so very smart that he’s always teaching me something. Its refreshing.

But I’ve been feeling like I’m constantly showing him I’m a good girl and that he can open up to me. He claims he has abandonment issues when it comes to women. Idk what to do about that!? I just want him to see that I’ve been doing all I can to show him I’m not like those other girls he’s dated , and for him to reciprocate some of that love. I mean how do I say it? what should I do??