My husband and I have been together for 3 years, married for 1 year. For the last 6 months (yes half of our marriage) he doesn’t pay attention to me. He sits in the living room when he wakes up and watches Netflix or gets on reddit until he goes to work (3-4 hours later). He doesn’t say good morning or spend time with me. I make him coffee every morning and say good morning etc he says thanks and goes back to his video or show. When he gets off work he will kiss me to say hello but immediately after turns on the TV to watch a movie. I’ve talked to him about this and he says he will change. But he doesn’t.... I feel so unimportant, unappreciated, and unloved. I clean the house, do the dishes, the laundry, basically all house chores, I take the dog out so he doesn’t have to.... he’s not interested in having sex and I haven’t been touched in 4 months.. (I know he’s not cheating but idk what’s wrong with me...) his parents and I don’t get along because I wanted to wait to have kids and my husband resents me for it. My husband feels like he lost his family because of me.... and I don’t want him to feel like that.... I don’t want him to feel like he has to choose between me and his family, I just want him to stand up for me when his parents say mean things to/about me, when they do mean things towards me, etc. I just want my husband to defend me as his wife... idk what to do anymore.... 😭😭😭😭 I’m 24, he’s 27, sometimes we have amazing moments and it’s great but we have more bad moments than good for the last 5-6 months.... I just want to be loved...

**RESPONSE TO COMMENTS**

— We are currently in counseling, but he doesn’t like that the counselor told him that he needs to stand up to his parents and he doesn’t feel like it’s bad that he wants “me time” to watch his shows everyday. — I have asked him on dates to try to break the routine.. his excuse is that he doesn’t want to go out. I will try to build him up more, that’s something I haven’t been doing because I have been lost and depressed about how he’s treating me. Maybe if I try more with him, it might get through to him... — As far as compromising on having kids, he doesn’t resent me for not wanting kids yet.. him and I decided that together. He resents me because his parents don’t like me. His parents don’t like me because I told them we are waiting and they want us to have kids now. That’s literally a lose lose situation and he won’t stand up to them in any way. So it looks like I’m the only one keeping us from having kids.