I’m in this moms group on Facebook and a mom posted about having no food for her children. My impulsive self messaged her and said I could get a few cans etc to bring to her. Now I’m FREAKING out because what if something bad happens?!

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I didn’t ask/tell my husband before I messaged her because I just wasn’t thinking and now I’m regretting it 100%. I’m scared to bring food to someone’s house I don’t know! My friend said she’d go with me but I’m so anxious about my decision. I am going to have to tell my husband but he’s going to be pissed for 1. I didn’t tell/ask him before 2. That I have to bring the food to her. Ugh! Any suggestions?! I am probably thinking worse case scenario but still😭
Edit: her car is broken down and she has no way of transportation. 
I asked my friend to go and she said she could. Do you think that’s ok?

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I know it sounds callous, but you could do what I would be forced to do, and hotline it. If you have her name and know what city she lives in, you could make a hotline. The more information you have, the better though.
I know it feels like “tattling”, but it sounds like between the food and car, this family is struggling and something else could be going on. The state could offer her services to help get back on her feet. Also, providing her with resources will be more helpful than just giving her items. You could even help her make phone calls to places. 
I am coming at this from a child welfare standpoint, so I am always considering safety of the children first.
CPS does not remove children due to poverty, there would need to be serious safety threats present. Most states do offer services to families in need though when a hotline is made.

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I've bought stuff from Facebook marketplace and went to those pesky homes. nothing bad happened. you could always write her back and ask to meet in a public place.

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Why not meet somewhere public?

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There are honestly people who need help. On the other hand my husband wont let me help. Hes a cop and says he sees that all the time and sometimes people are robbed or worse. To quote him "they bait women because women are typically more willing to help amd go for the sob stories". He's said theyve had quite a bit of people do that in my area of town. So while i feel bad i domt risk it.

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I’m in a mom group in my area on Facebook too. It’s a wonderful group full of support. I’ve bought things and gone to their houses for pick-up without thinking about it. We’ve gotten things together for single moms in need several times too. I think it’s ok.

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If you don’t feel comfortable going you could find another way to help, like giving her a gift card for a local grocery with delivery service. Some Walmart’s have it

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Can’t believe everything you read online...you could regret it one day when you meet the wrong person

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Meet in public or sorry to say change your mind... some people do that just to set you up, and some are being honest. It's so hard to tell. There are so many horror stories about this kind of stuff. I'm the same as you, I worry about stuff like that. I always take protection anywhere I go, like everywhere. 
But anyways, meet in a safe public placeZ

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If I were you I would send it with a male relative I know...a brother or cousin..that way your covered.husband doesn't have to know..plus your not endangering yourself...

I’m in this moms group on Facebook and a mom posted about having no food for her children. My impulsive self messaged her and said I could get a few cans etc to bring to her. Now I’m FREAKING out because what if something bad happens?!

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