Unpopular opinion 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

So I’m going to say something that’ll probably upset a lot of women but I’ve seen so many posts like this and I feel like it needs to be said.

If you’re in a relationship with a man that has a kid, and you’ve been together for less than 2 years (maybe even 3) it is not your business to get involved with custody, rules for raising the kid, or to talk shit about the kids mother. Of course it’s different if the kid is like 10 years old or something and you’ve been apart of that kids life since the beginning but if you just joined the parade you don’t know all the history that’s gone down between the two parents . And more importantly a lot of these posts I see , the girlfriend is fighting for the best interests of their man and not the kid. Because of course you’re not going to wish bad upon a kid or want to see them suffer but at the end of the day, you’re looking out for your man not his kid.

Also you only know the side he gives you, which is a very biased point of view. Of course he’s going to make himself look good and like the victim, while portraying the other person as bad. My ex and I have a daughter that is 3 years old . He abused her and I physically so I have sole custody and he had visitations twice a week. He stopped coming on his own and when he did come he had to leave many times for coming drunk . So now he has absolutely no rights and never paid child support. However his new girlfriend decided to message me on social media to tell me how unfair I was for never letting him see his own daughter , and that she was going to fight for him to be able to. She only knows the version he and his family gave her of me and the situation. She had no idea he stopped coming on his own a year ago, that he not once tried to reach out to see her again, that he was abusive to us, or that he didn’t pay child support🤷🏻‍♀️ like I said she was looking out for his best interests and not my daughters .

So if you’re dating someone with a kid, just remember it’s not your kid and it’s not your business . ( unless you guys have been together for many many years and you’ve been apart of that kids life since the beginning )