I am a first time mom and had a beautiful baby 5 months ago. Before then I would always make sure my apartment was clean clean, dinner was made, my husbands clothes were picked out, laundry was done and put away, I showered, etc.

Since baby was born I am STRUGGLING!!! I’m so exhausted that I most of the time not have the energy or motivation to do anything. I just want to laze around. When I was pregnant we bought our first home, which makes the cleaning that much more. I find every time I clean, there’s a mess 2 days later. It drives me insane!!! I’m a clean person at heart, which is causing me to get really down on myself and almost make me grumpy because there’s a mess.

I try to tidy and clean whenever I have the motivation, but that’s just our master bedroom, bathroom, and kitchen/living room. The other rooms and bathrooms are neglected and MESSY!!! But I get super overwhelmed.

I do laundry, but it sits in the dryer, or laundry hamper unfolded downstairs most of the time. I get overwhelmed with the amount of laundry we have. It doesn’t help that I only have one laundry basket (tall one) which makes bringing laundry upstairs a hassle.

Dinner is what gets to me too. I used to enjoy cooking, now it’s just something I need to do and I hate doing it. Some days I’m okay and I cook, but other days I just can’t. We’re spending a ridiculous amount of money eating out (while living on one income, so money is tight). I feel like a failure as a mom and wife. I didn’t realize how hard parenthood was going to be.

Any tips/suggestions for me? Anything that would make these tasks easier on me? Anything to motivate me? Were you like this? What did you do?