Do I tell him?

So at my home we have a “broken” washing machine

When in use, it leaks from the bottom.

I have asked my SO not to use it since I’ve discovered the leak because the water will ruin the floor

I recently had a feeling he had been using it still and so I asked, and he told me no.

There were a few things in the washer still, So I put an article of clothing in the washer in a specific way, and the next time I felt the floor was more than unreasonably wet (the washer is right by the door, and it is winter and sometimes the dogs track in snow) , I would check to see if the article of clothing was moved.

I checked the next time (this week) and yes, the article of clothing was moved.

I did not say anything because I had not done laundry in about a week because I had recently quit my job and didn’t have the money on me to do laundry until I received my last check (which I got yesterday) , so I figured, it being once in a while and he did pick up majority of the water, that it’s “okay”.

I told him last night I was going to be doing laundry, but I didn’t get home until it was dark, and I didn’t want to go to the laundromat alone in the dark, so I told him when he got home I would be doing it in the morning.

And then today, I saw that he was doing ANOTHER load of laundry, while I was home.

And I said something.

And he got mad, blaming me, saying it was my fault because I didnt do laundry.

I had asked for money/to borrow money to do laundry and he said he didn’t have any.

I thought we were okay for the next day or so.

But I have also noticed that he has been throwing dirty clothes in the clean clothes basket, so I am under the impression that he just does not know what is clean and what isn’t. I have tried telling him/helping him and he says I don’t know what I’m talking about.

Clean clothes are still in the basket because we do not have enough room in our dresser to place all of our clothing.

I also do not think he realizes how much clothes we do have in our dresser.

He had made complaints to be before that he didn’t have a clean work shirt, when in fact there were one or two in the dresser that I got out for him.

I thought, a load of laundry once in a while was okay, but it seems as if he was washing an entire load, but only removing a few articles of clothing and then had been rewashing the entire load, cycle repeat.

And I told him that the floors were starting to warp and that if he kept doing it I was going to have to get new floors for not only the living room and babies room, but for the kitchen as well.

And that it was going to be a couple hundred dollars extra.

And he ignored me.

And then I tried to be nicer about it, and I told him I was on my way to the laundromat, and I asked what he absolutely needed washed and to gather it up.

He ignored me again.

I told him again, to put whatever he needed in the basket that needs to get washed because I was going to get going and he can’t use the washer again.

And he told me not to worry about it.

And so I looked at the washer, and I was trying to figure out how to unplug/remove/whatever you do. And I couldn’t figure it out.

So I messaged his mom and asked if his dad knew how to dismantle a washer so he couldn’t use it anymore because it was ruining the floors.

She never answered, but when my mom called, I asked her how to dismantle a washer, and she asked why, and I told her, and she arranged for my grandfather to come over and remove the washer so a friend of mine could pick it up.

I plan to get a new washer and dryer eventually (stackables) because our laundry area does not have enough room for both vertically and the current washer we have does not stack.

My mom asked me whether or not I made him aware that I’m getting rid of the washer, and I have not. And acted like It was “sneaky” for not telling him.

I thought that it would sound “snarky” if I said that I was removing the washer right after our “argument”

And now Ive been thinking, is it wrong of me to remove the washer without acknowledging him before doing so?

I know, it’s my fault for not doing laundry for an entire week.

And I do plan on getting rid of a bunch of my clothing to make room in the dresser because I do know a lot of the clothes taking up space is my own.

But I do try to wash an even amount of clothes when doing to the laundromat, and I always ask him to put what he needs in the basket before I go.

Idk, he is at work right now

Should I message him to tell him the washer is being removed or should I just leave it as it currently is?