I had so many questions to ask on here and making a separate post for each felt too extra. It’s a broad mixture of questions here lol. So here we go:

1. I so desperately want to buy lingerie and toys for my partner and I to use, but I live with my parents and my mother opens my mail and packages “by accident”. She gets packages for herself so often that she doesn’t bother reading the name and just goes ahead and opens. I’m nearly 20, will it be as awkward as I think it might be if she opened one of mine? (Has anyone had that happen to them here?) And when buying toys and lingerie, is the packaging obvious for what it is? The last thing I want is my dad collecting my parcel for me and it has the name of the company on there or some other giving sign (I live in Australia if that makes any difference at all) 🤦‍♀️

2. My boobs are too big to fit ANY lingerie. I’m 8JJ, the only lingerie store I know that does my size only goes to K (which I’m getting close to fitting now 😡) but it’s so, so expensive. Is there anywhere for my cup size I can try to buy from that isn’t $100 for each damn bra? My chest just hasn’t stopped growing since I was 10, nearly 20 now, even when I lost 10kg recently my cup size not only didn’t go down, it continued getting larger 😭. I was a DD cup at 13 😑

3. I can’t orgasm unless I’m drunk or drowsy from my pain relief (it is prescribed I might add). Don’t get me wrong, what we do feels bloody amazing (intoxicated or not lol) but I just never quite tip the edge. As TMI as it might be, I can’t even get wet until we’re already being intimate, we have to use lube which always burns. I am absolutely mentally turned on at those times but it’s like my body doesn’t want to follow where my mind wants to go. Is there such thing as (perhaps maybe) something similar to viagra but for a woman in a woman way? Something which puts my body where my mind is? This all started happening when I started antidepressants (Lexapro) in 2017 (the only negative side effect I’ve faced is this), my body goes back to normal when I stop taking them and can get itself “ready”, but I can’t stop the Lexapro at the moment. So is there anything I could take? Prescription or over-the-counter?

It sucks because I’ll be so ready, but it takes a whole minute or 2 just for him to actually “get in” properly because my body physically just isn’t doing the right thing, and it does hurt at the beginning every time.

4. I’ve never used a toy (I’m speaking about just for myself in this question) because I was too anxious to buy one for the above reason in question 1. Is it worth buying one? And if so, what were you most satisfied with? (Brand, type of toy, etc.)

Thanks for anyone who can help with any of these questions, massively appreciated!!!