DH thinks everything is a joke, and he has a shitty sense of humor. Basically anything that upsets me is “funny”. We have a minor renovation starting this weekend so I’m trying to take photos and keepsakes off the walls so they don’t get destroyed. I asked for help with the extra high stuff so I don’t have to climb up and down a ladder. First he says he’s busy, then tells me to grow, then finally helps with the first frame.

Next was a shelf covered in glass and ceramic figures. He motions to try and pull the whole shelf off the wall with everything on it...while looking right at me and not even paying attention to what he’s doing. I say stop stop STOP!!!!! Keepsakes I’ve had for 30 something years, and he just doesn’t care. I block him from continuing to carelessly rip the shelf from the wall which would send everything on it crashing to the ground and at this point my stomach is rock solid and I’m shaking. He still acknowledges no problem whatsoever. I tell him not to touch anything, I no longer want ANY help because he has no appreciation for how fragile and important the items are. He insists he’s going to take it all down and again I say STOP!!!! I don’t want you to touch anything. LISTEN TO ME!!!! He sits down, then a few minutes again goes over to take items off the shelf, even though he’s blindly reaching over his head and can’t see what’s on the shelf from below it. Again I scream at him to stop. Then he decides that even though I just sat down and am trying to calm down, eat and watch tv it’s time to stand directly in front of me trying to kiss me and rub my belly. Clearly not for MY benefit right?? Then I’m the asshole. Bc I should stop eating to make out when I’m already pissed off and trying to calm down.

Sent him a link about the dangers of chronic stress and early labor and he completely ignored it. I feel like I’m already dealing with a child. I know it probably seems like such a stupid thing. But picture someone motioning to take an entire shelf down that they can barely even reach, that is covered with incredibly fragile items. Especially when the whole point was to protect the keepsakes from getting broken.