Ok this is stupid but...my feelings are hurt

My husband and I are the last of our siblings to have our first kid. We also had some trouble getting pregnant, so we had some hard years showing up for the rest of our family for their baby showers and births, etc. It was emotionally hard, but that said we are PRO aunt and uncle, like actually we are the best - our nieces and nephews are crazy about us and we show up to baby sit, bought baby shower gifts and birthday and Christmas gifts etc all along the way...

So now we are miraculously, joyfully 31 weeks pregnant ourselves! And this odd thing is happening where our family (not our parents just our siblings) are being very “been there some that” about it. No enthusiasm for our shower, and they are “gifting” us hand-me-downs...and I don’t want to be ungrateful but they are giving us the icky/ destroyed/ugly clothes and toys that they don’t want because they are having more kids so they are keeping the good stuff for themselves. I mean I don’t really blame them for that...but....they seem to have decided that they don’t need to gift us anything new because of these hand me downs. I just feel hurt that they aren’t showing up to make us and our baby feel special after all we have been through.

It’s not about the stuff ... my husband and I are very fortunate and thrifty so we will find a way to get what we need...it just hurts to feel dismissed if that makes sense, like to not be celebrated as wholeheartedly as we celebrated them for so many years.

Sob story over and I’m sorry....:) grateful every day for this healthy bouncy baby in my belly!