Am I abnormal?

So I never thought I'd post here but I'm in a position where I need to know if there are people like me out there.

My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and we've never met.

He's the one who initiated the idea of phone sex through videocall. Here's the thing I'm attracted to his voice,laugh everything but just not his penis. I cannot masturbate looking at a penis,i just don't find it attractive.

I can masturbate if I read or watch porn but this videocall dosent seem to work. And I told him that today. I also told him if phone sex is that important to him in long distance maybe we should breakup because I can't satisfy him like that.

I've tried so many times but I really cant.

Does that make me a bi or lesbian?