I've been trying to get the boyfriend to switch from second shift to first. I usually wouldn't ask but, he's not able to help around the house or have the energy for sex becuase he says he's always tired I work 50+ hours a week so I get being tired. I've asked and asked for help around the house, I've tried telling him what to help with and half the time it doesn't get done. Anyways he said switching shifts wasn't an option as he loves his coworkers and how laid back everything is. Am I asking too much? For him to give up the second shift job so we can have more "us time"? Also I work on the weekends and he doesn't so he could be doing things around the house but doesn't. Instead after a 6-15 hour shift i come home to the house the way I left it.

Since he didn't want to switch shifts I've also brought up a job opening with another company. It's Monday Tuesday Wednesday off and he's home every night. If he took the job he'd be making $30,000 more than what he already brings home. He dosnt want to put in for it as he's tired of switching jobs. I have 2 years under my belt so we're ok if we need to apply for a loan. As a couple you always try to better each other and that's what I'm trying to do! I know he can do the work and he would get the job. He also got upset because he can't provide the things I want. Which upset me because this job would be the answer to our prayers