Just want to share my story...

Me and my husband were trying to conceive for a long time, eventually we were told it would be almost impossible due to him having a very low sperm count... until Boxing Day, a Christmas miracle happened, I was finally having my first child at age 31, our dreams had come true!

8weeks later I started bleeding with cramps, for 3 weeks I was in agony and constant bleeding, I was repeatedly told it was a normal process of miscarriage... we were heartbroken.

On one occasion I was rushed to hospital in agony, almost passing out with severe sharp pains shooting through me... after 5 hrs I was sent home with codiene, apparently my ‘miscarriage’ had likely ended. I felt like I was being a wimp, women go through this so often, why was I not able to man up and get on with it?!

A few days later the same happened again, I couldn’t cope, went back to hospital, this time they finally scanned me.... I had an ectopic pregnancy, unfortunately it had ruptured my right tube and I had huge internal bleeding, life saving surgery was need ASAP! Our worlds were turned upside down again!

After surgery I was told the tube had to be removed... I had a pelvic infection that had caused my tubes to swell, I had no idea... not only did I nearly lose my life but we lost our baby and my right tube... the infection was so bad it also affected my other tube, I feel my world has crashed down so hard on me I can’t cope... we will never have a child of our own, we are not eligible for IVF because my husband has a child with his ex...

I just wanted to share my story, and raise awareness, pelvic infections apparently are the preventable most common cause of infertility, trust your body, if u know something is wrong, push harder to get confirmation.

2 years ago I told my doctor I had extremely painful periods and ovary pain each month and going to toilet loads! They told me I was one of the ‘lucky ladies’ that can feel an egg releasing each month and encouraged me to have sex when this happened.... pls ladies, pelvic infections are so simple to treat, yet causes so much damage, help me raise awareness 💓💓

Words cannot describe how broken I feel right now... I long to feel that pregnancy buzz just one more time, but I know this will never be x