Ok some of you may think I’m being harsh for saying this but I’m sorry I believe if your not gonna be able to care for the kids you already have with another child you shouldn’t have another child. And let me clarify I’m talking about people that purposely try for a baby not ones that get pregnant without planning to I’m that case I understand. My brother in law and his fiancé each have a 9 year old boy from their previous marriage and decided to try for one together. They already did to where they pawned the boys off on my mil 24-7 before ever getting pregnant, then when she got pregnant anytime they left their house they had my mil keep them for hours at a time and me and my husband looked at it as maybe she was just having a rough pregnancy and that’s why they were leaving them to her 24-7. Then when they had the baby they pretty much just left them by my mil 24-7 but again we tried to give them the benefit of the doubt and thought well they have a new baby so maybe that’s why even though I personally wouldn’t do it. And I mean I get every now and then cause sometimes parents need a break. But now 2 months later they’re still doing it 24-7 and it just bugs me so bad. Any time they go somewhere they leave the boys with my mil that morning and don’t come back till that night or even the next day. It really bugged me cause in my opinion if they can’t handle caring for the kids they already had along with the new baby they never should have tried for another especially since they were already having to have my mil help 24-7 before even trying for this baby. It breaks my heart for the boys too cause they say all the time how ever since baby sissy was born they don’t want us around anymore. There’s so many women out there that would die to have just one kid and they had a baby when they weren’t even caring for the ones they already have. Now I will say this they’re amazing parents to the new baby they’ve never been away from her but it feels so unfair to the boys and my mil cause they never even ask like “hey are you free to keep the boys” they just bring them and say we need you to keep them. My mil hasn’t been able to do anything for over a year now ever since they moved here from Florida, she has to cancel doc apts, and activities she had planned with friends and they even made her keep the boys when my mil had a severe case of the flu and double pneumonia!!! I was furious when I found that out especially cause they had her keep them that time so they could go shopping!!! Am I just being too judgmental or something? It’s just I’m sorry but I don’t agree with it, I’d NEVER make someone keep my kids while that person was as sick as she was and we didn’t even consider trying until my daughter was old enough to where I felt I could handle another child.