Am I right to be mad at my MIL or is it just hormones?

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So I only see my mother-in-law every couple of months and I went to her house today and the first thing that she tells me is that I'm starting to look pregnant in my face now. I'm 27 weeks and have only gained 18 pounds, so it isn't like I've gained tons and tons of weight for her to say something like that. I take that as calling me fat and I think it is extremely disrespectful. Do you guys think I have the right to be mad or am I just being overly emotional?

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To be honest, I doubt it was meant to say you look fat. I think that many pregnant get a ‘roundness’ to their face during later pregnancy, even if they haven’t gained weight. It goes with the pregnancy glow, and in my experience, most people find it attractive.

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I wouldn’t take it bad, I mean you are pregnant. She probably meant you look like you have a pregnant belly not that you are fat or anything 🤷‍♀️

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I don’t think she was being rude, yeah we look different pregnant and some people not use to seeing weight on you. I don’t take any pregnancy comments rude or disrespectful cause I know I’m gonna gain weight and look different. I personally don’t really care for the comments your gonna life the weight. My nose got bigger and I look fatter. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤰🏽

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I can tell pregnancy in the face with a vast majority of pregnant women. I wouldn't take it as meaning you look fat. Many women's faces just change when they're pregnant. There's nothing wrong with that. Maybe she shouldn't have said anything, but I don't think she was rude either.

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Personally, I would be mad. But I’m very sensitive and take things to heart so 🤷🏻‍♀️ I just feel like things like that would be better left unsaid. Obviously I have a mirror and can see where I’m gaining weight. Don’t need to hear it from the peanut gallery. Maybe that’s just me lol.

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I don’t think it was meant to be rude. My MIL has mentioned my face being round and how big I’m getting, and I don’t take it personally. I know she is just excited to be a grandma for the first time and when she sees me gaining weight it’s a reminder of that her grandson will be here soon.. Plus she has multiple sclerosis and so sometimes she doesn’t understand when she is being rude.

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Overly emotional. Even if you haven’t gained much weight, the face changes shape during pregnancy. Especially the nose. If it has been a while since she has seen you, it’s easier for her to notice the subtle changes.

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I've been super sensitive this pregnancy.. so I would've taken it bad, too. My grandma in law told me I'm definitely having a boy because I'm getting wider. Well, I'm very self conscious about it..because when I'm not pregnant and I gain any extra weight, it goes to my love handles..hence, making me look wider. So I ended up telling her (as nicely as I could) that I am self conscious about that..and that even if I am getting wider, I dont appreciate being told I am. It's my body, I know where I'm gaining extra weight lol..I dont need anyone telling me as well..

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I've noticed women always talk about your weight, stretch marks etc, because that's what they think about. Men always talk about your vagina. It's always weird and unwelcome but try not to hold the grudge.

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I find it offensive when people tell me the same thing but I just don’t think anyone should comment on a pregnant woman’s weight or appearance unless you’re going to tell them something positive. However some people don’t realize things like that can be offensive. I wouldn’t be mad at her for it

Am I right to be mad at my MIL or is it just hormones?

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