So my significant another and I had an argument this morning over how I said something to him and he personally feels like I don't know him. he got upset because I said he needed to study for 15 to 30 minutes a day and was very offended because he said he needed to be immersed in studying so he can do great and that I needed to push him more and that would be very valid if he showed different sorts of behavior he behaves more like Homer Simpson than he does someone who wants to actually do something with his life. He is in a drunk but he overindulges on damn near everything and avoid studying like it's the plague. On his last certification exam he didn't really study until the last three days before the test and he almost passed. I told him in order for him to do well he needed to just study 15 to 30 minutes a day dedicated so it didn't feel like too much pressure on him and somehow that offended him and made him feel like I was belittling him and giving up on him but he has horrible habits of where he will come home from work then he will sit on his phone for an hour hour-and-a-half and watch nothing but stupid videos that aren't going to make him any better in life and then he'll go take the dog for the walking exercise and then by the time he gets back he just wants to sit back and relax and watch TV and then right before he falls asleep he would study for like maybe 5 to 10 minutes and for some reason he found it so offencive and I just don't understand. He started saying that I don't push him enough as a wife when anytime I ask him to do anything it takes months for it to get done we moved into a new rental home over 7 months ago and the first thing that was wrong with the house was that the sink faucet needed a rubber ring replacement which takes literally 5 minutes and it's been almost 8 months and it still hasn't been done and I have nagged him over and over and over we got a brand new white board so I could write it on the board and he could see it every single day and he still doesn't do it whenever I ask him to do something with the yard it takes forever for it to get done unless he just randomly feels like doing something or decides to clean at 2 or 3 in the morning for no reason I just don't understand how what I said was so offensive. He says that he can be great if he was with another woman who would motivate him but how can someone motivate you when you won't get off your ass or when you are encouraged to do something just say that you'll do it later and you literally fight against yourself trying to make yourself better and everyone around you trying to make you better it makes no sense! He blames me for literally everything that happens that I have no control over but then somehow he thinks that he's the one who does all the hard work in the family I'm just extremely upset and I don't know what else to do I can't complain to his mom who I have a very close relationship with I can't complain to my mother because she's just batshit crazy and I have no one else to really talk to accept my children and I don't want to tell them these sorts of things about their father. last week when I asked him to mow the lawn he literally cut all the edges around it and didn't cut the middle and said that everything would be fine but because I haven't gotten all of my tasks done every day with in a timely manner because I am home schooling our children and keeping the house clean and we are home pretty much 24/7 and taking care of the dogs and trying to find us a new home and trying to work online he says that I am lazy and I don't do anything but sit on my butt!!! I am just furious and I don't know what else to do I don't know the point of this rant I just had to get it off of my chest.....whenever he watches movies about successful men or TV shows or documentaries he starts saying that he could be one of those great people but he never puts any of the work into the ideas that he has he makes me do it and if he had other people around him he would make them do it, he's just plain lazy and I try to tell him things like that but he doesn't see it that way he sees it as he goes to work which Sundays he does work hard and I don't give take that away from him but most days he takes the easy way out of things and to be successful in that just can't happen oh, I cannot make these insane ideas happen and come to fruition just because I am at home. I'm not at home just by myself where I have tons of time to clean the house and get food ready and do everything else with in a timely manner I'm homeschooling children which takes at least four hours a day and we are also doing what I called training time where they're doing lots of exercise before school so they kind of have all those crazy Jitters out and that takes another half hour to hour and a half then it's cleaning the house and making dinner and then getting everyone ready for bed and hikes and things like that. I'm not saying that he's a bad father he does take his kids on walks he is active sometimes but when it comes to the ideas that he wants to make happen for a family to make us more successful he putshardly any effort into it it's mostly just watching a video or two and then telling me all the things that I need to do to make us better and then he says what he needs to do to make this better and I will do half of the test and he does one and somehow it's all on me I just don't understand! I don't know if this is how men work in their mines but I know that this is not the way to get anything done. ... I am just beyond my wits!!!!I just found out two weeks ago that I'm pregnant again and he thinks it would be best for us to get an abortion and I personally feel like I can't go through with it and everything just seems to be caving in all at once I feel like I have so much pressure on me and all he can do is complain about how much pressure he has to take a test that could eat he could easily pass seeing as how he's worked at a job that requires him to know things about the test he's going to take to get certifiedand things that are happening around the world that we can do absolutely nothing about but he will sit and talk for hours and hours about it and nothing ever gets done around the house or in our lives and I just am tired of it. I want to move forward I don't want to be stuck in the same place for another 10 years....